Money is tight for us, so presents are rare and generally inexpensive. This year my husband wanted to play hockey with a group from his work, so we figured out where we could get the money for that. He needed some of his equiptment replaced (since he hadn’t played in years) so I told him we could only replace it if that was his Christmas present and birthday present (his birthday is in March). He agreed.
I did get him something small for under the tree, though.
I have no idea what he is getting me for Christmas, and frankly I don’t care if he gets me anything. My birthday is also 8 days after Christmas. We are building a house after the new year and will have to purchase all new appliances and a lot of furniture we haven’t gotten since being married. I told him he could put whatever money he was thinking about using for Christmas and birthday for me towards that, but I doubt he does. He likes to get me things for Christmas and my birthday, if we can afford it.
We generally don’t give each other anniversary presents, instead we will go out for dinner or just spend some time togther. We don’t celebrate Valentine’s day, but we will generally give small gifts on birthdays. I wouldn’t even care if we did that, though. To me, spending time together and having a homemade cake is the best anyway.