I’ve been dating a nice Lutheran-but-not-really girl for several months now, and things are starting to get serious. We share almost identical values and tastes and, though I’m sure this would make some of the old guard chuckle, I think we’re very much in love.
Oh, but she is a class act ---- she’s cute, frugal, ditzy but smarter than she lets on, and she really has the Goodwill chic look down pat. I could gush but I don’t want to cloud the actual issue. She was worried about me being Catholic for a time, until I explain that Catholics aren’t fundamentalists who take the Bible literally, etc. I expect to be explaining Mary shortly.
The Point: Where we did have a bit of friction was on the idea of birth control. I say no, she say yes. We both would want either two or four kids, so it isn’t like I’m want them by the dozen and she not at all, but I think this would become a major issue if we didn’t settle it soon. Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but soon and, potentially, for the rest of our lives we could be bickering about this. I hope to nip in in the bud.
I don’t want to hurt her feelings, and I’ve thought about natural family planning, though honestly it’d be years before it becomes a practical part of our lives, so I’m not sure how to bring it up, but what if she says no? Or prefers the pill? I can’t turn a blind eye, because then I’d reap the benefits as much as she from something I believe is fundamentally wrong.
What should I do? Is there any reasonable compromise? I have a feeling I know the answer already, but I really don’t want to lose her.