I love my girlfriend very much and I love her family as well. They are ALL so generous to me and welcoming. There is a small problem, however, that is affecting my girlfriend more so than myself and I’m posting here to help her better and be a little more supportive. My girlfriend is of great faith and she is really humble. She’s not into leading a glamorous lifestyle at all. However, my girlfriend’s family CAN be somewhat materialistic, as they come from a good amount of money. They are church goers which is awesome, and while I’m not judging at all, I totally understand that wealth can get in the way of faith, and naturally for them sometimes it’s easier to talk about materialistic things rather than things involving faith and whatnot. This isn’t necessarily the problem.
However, my girlfriend’s sister is engaged to this guy. Now, the guy is friendly and not mean spirited, but he is extremely wealthy and self-absorbed. When he’s at a family dinner, the topics are anything related to the stock market, what he just bought, etc. and my girlfriend’s family eats it up (which, on their behalf, I’m sure they are happy their daughter is marrying such a rich man because she will be set). Being around him can be a challenge because it feels like my girlfriend and I are neglected. At family parties, my girlfriend’s family is just totally engrossed with this guy and they seem to talk about their upcoming wedding to the point where my girlfriend just totally feels left out of the family.
For me, it’s not really a problem, because like I said, I love the family and the materialistic side to them isn’t necessarily great but all families have flaws and they are trying to lead a faithful life. But my girlfriend, since her sister’s boyfriend came into the picture, just totally feels left out of her own family. It’s definitely not a jealousy thing at all either because we are so happy together. She just feels neglected. She is praying for humility, yet it’s just hard. Does anyone have suggestions? And I totally understand how we are supposed to be the light of the world and good apostles, but this is just challenging because at family dinners there’s really never any segues to talking about faith sometimes.