[quote="Joseph_L_Varga, post:5, topic:218205"]
Techniques?? :D When I was a boy, we guys would teach each other Kung-Fu techniques, acrobatic bicycle techniques, maybe even techniques to put on a tie. But kissing techniques? :p
OK, I think techniques would be allright between married people, but with boys and girls dating each other, this sounds like inviting trouble, to me. There's no need for boys and girls to explore kissing techniques, and there's no need for girls to prepare each other in advance of a date between people who are not married to each other.
The Catholic teaching is that seeking sexual arousal and the enjoyment of sexual pleasure should take place only in marriage. The word "techniques" suggests to me that this kind of kissing goes beyond simply showing a sign of affection, and it crosses into the sexual domain (sexual exploration, deliberately seeking arousal, deliberately giving and receiving sexual pleasure). Nothing wrong with it, if married people do it. But non-married people should stick to kisses that are not meant to sexually arouse and sexually gratify each other.
I agree with you with one caveat. I don't think that trying to perfect "technique" necessarily means seeking sexual arousal over showing affection. I am thinking specifically of when my husband and I first kissed. It was his first ever kiss, and his mouth was gaped open. Partially from surprise, partially from "oh-my-gosh-i-can't-believe-this-is-really-happening!" giggle
So I can see the desire to try to perfect that so you can show affection without, say, drooling all over your partner or eeesntially eating their face.
But it's more fun to learn that with your spouse/significant other (although with an SO it's to the point of showing affection, not deriving sexual pleasure) and significanly less weird.
Although what person admits not "practicing" on their hand? LOL