I recently went to confession and was given some advice by the confessor that was questionable and I am unsure if my response to his advice was correct or not.
Here’s the brief summary: among the sins I confessed were sins against the purity. The confessor suggested that I not “keep myself from the Sacraments” after falling into such sins (even if I were to view pornography or engage in impure acts). He said that I should present myself to receive Holy Communion even if I have committed such sins and not gone to confession so long as I have made a sincere act of contrition. He emphasized that through habit and other circumstances the severity of these sins is lessened.
While I know that the Catechism states that this may be the case with certain sins of impurity, my understanding is that willingly viewing pornography is always considered a mortal sin. Also, I have always felt that when it comes to sin one should err on the side of caution if it is not completely clear whether a sin was mortal or venial.
Anyway, after Father gave me this advice he asked me if I would take his advice regarding receiving Holy Communion even if I had not been to confession. I knew I could not do this, but rather than say so I told him that I “would try” to take this advice. Was my response acceptable?
I know Father meant well, but I can’t knowingly receive Our Blessed Lord in the Holy Eucharist if I am not in a state of grace. This is the Church’s teaching and I can’t go against it simply because one priest says it would be ok. At the same time I did not want to seem to be disregarding my confessor’s advice either.
I appreciate your feedback.