My MIL and I have been having a discussion regarding giving gifts or money this year. She doesn’t know what to give my BIL for Christmas and is considering just writing him a check. She talked to him about it, and he says that if she sent a check, he would rather pay off his student loans than buy some new gadget for himself. MIL doesn’t want him to “blow his Christmas money on paying off loans.”
She’s asked me what I think on the issue. She feels that if she’s the one giving the money she should be able to have some say in how it’s used. I am of the opinion that if she wants him to have a gift, she should buy him one. But if she wants to give money, then she should respect his decision to do with it as he pleases.
So what are your thoughts on it? Is my opinion unrealistic?