Hello! I was looking for some simple advice or words of wisdom. I’m a new husband and also new father and just found out we have a 2nd child on the way! Haven’t even been married two years yet. This is all a blessing and I’m overwhelmed at God’s generosity. However, as a provider/husband/father, I’m facing an issue I’ve never quite faced before and was wondering if there was an easy spiritual solution (I do seek this answer in prayer, and was wondering maybe God will answer the prayer here). Or perhaps a Bible verse that I could repeat whenever I am attacked by this issue.
I am struggling specifically in my relationship with money. We live quite modestly now. My wife is still in school so I have the only source of income. We get by and bills are paid for, but I guess it’s the saving part I’m struggling with. We live in a small apartment and there’s a house to save for, two children’s college, and also retirement. I know certainly God wants us to take the narrow way, certainly not live for the pleasures of this world, to not serve mammon but rather God. I feel like God wants me to save for these things that are good (a house, college education, retirement) and I don’t think I’m being greedy at all by saving. My struggle is in the balance of everything: To take the narrow way yet still use money for God’s greater glory, to not serve mammon but yet still make the right decisions financially for my family.
I do feel like I get spiritually attacked about this and am just a little confused as far a what specifically to pray for. Even getting more specific with the attacks, I know for some of these long term things like retirement and saving for college I had to put my money in the stock market and obviously the stock market is tanking right now. God is of course way more powerful than the silly stock market but the devil tempts me into thinking too much about losing money and then I question what exactly I should be saving for and then at times just wish I didn’t have any money at all because I wouldn’t have this problem.
I have talked about this issue with a priest and while I agree with their advice (i.e. it’s all God’s money anyways) it still can be difficult.