[quote="Angelic_Rose, post:15, topic:226784"]
I'd say "Sorry, I can't do it". I'm really confused on why he is even having his child baptized if he and his wife are not believers. Plus I think you ought to show them that you stand for your faith and beliefs.
I'm sure you will still have a presence in your nephew's/niece's life and you will have the opportunity to show them the faith. But if the parents won't take the role as godparent seriously, especially out of respect of your faith, then what is the point of going through the Sacrament?
This is Ireland - most parents get the kids baptised, even if they do not believe in the Catholic faith themselves. It's a cultural thing.
[quote="kenofken, post:18, topic:226784"]
So far as I know, there's nothing in doctrine which either requires or authorizes you as a godparent to assert parental duties over a child while his or her parents still live. You're there as a backup, so to speak, and to model your faith in a way not so very different than you would supposed to be doing as "just" an uncle. Ducking the role of godparent isn't going to make you feel any less obligated to steer the kids toward the faith in some capacity, is it? Conversely, signing on as godparent isn't going to special powers, or (so far as I know), impose any obligation to undermine the parent's wishes.
What would you do in my circumstances Ken? This issue has already caused a row in my house this evening. I need to make a decision one way or the other.
I am conflicted between being a pawn in a cultural baptism versus the possibility that my acceptance of the role might do some more good than my simply being an uncle to the boy.