Thank you for reading my post. I was hoping to get some advice about a situation I find myself in.
I am a godfather to both of my sister-in-law’s children. THe parents asked me to serve this role during the pregnancies and I stood in during Baptism at the local Ukrainian Catholic Church. My sister-in-law is somewhat religious while my brother-in-law is a non-believer. They do not attend church regularly, except for holidays.Their oldest child is entering second grade next year, and I recently brought up the question about First Communion. It appears that they are leaning to NOT allow their child to participate in the Sacrament. As you know, the Baptism is relatively easy while the First Communion would require that they play an active role in the Church (Classes, retreats, etc).
I am wondering what my responsibility is here. Of course, I suggested that they participate but I believe that they will not follow through. In the event that they decide not to - how much should I press the issue? At heart is the problem of my Godfatherly obligations - I did swear to help lead these children to God. I don’t want to violate the oath I swore in front of the Lord in His House. Its kind of a big deal for me. On the other hand, these are not MY children and I also don’t wan to create conflict.
So my question - what spiritual weight do I bear in the event that they do not follow through? Have I failed my oath? If so, is there a remedy? If they don’t intend to raise their children in the Church, my role as Godfather is moot. But is there a way to release myself from obligations because of parental actions?
Any advice or resources is much appreciated.