My husband and I just found out we’re pregnant, so I’ve been reading about who can and can’t be a Godparent. The forums I’ve read so far are helpful, but my situation is a little more complicated (eventually I’ll go to my Priest, but I want to have an idea of what to do before that).
I’m going through RCIA right now, but my husband is a non-practicing Lutheran. We’ve been talking about who we want to be the Godparents of this baby (our first), and we’ve come to a stumbling block. He knows that we need to have he/she baptised, but he wants his best friend (raised non-denominational) to be Godfather. I would like my best friend (Baptist children’s minister) to be Godmother (I know she would respect my wishes as to what faith my child is brought up).
The problem is, obviously, that neither of them are Catholic. His concern is how they will respect how you are raising your child…for me it’s very important that they are at least practicing Christians so they can properly play their role. I would love to do it the traditional way (both being Catholic), but the only Catholic people I know and trust are my sponsors. I know my sponsors (a married couple) from High School, but my husband graduated before us so he doesn’t really know them, and he has it in his mind that his best friend is the only man for the job. To be honest, I’m not really concerned with hurting anyone’s feelings by not making them a Godparent (even if it means my bf isn’t Godmother), I just want to make sure the job gets done right…so to speak.
I’ve read that in some instances a non-Catholic “witness” can be present, with the other practicing-Christian being the actual Godparent. True or not?
I’ve read that the practicing-Christan doesn’t have to be Catholic, and I’ve also read that the person does have to be Catholic. Which is right, does it vary between Diocese, or is it something that can be decided by the Priest?
I want what’s best for my family, and we intend on raising Catholic children, but this Godparent deal is becoming a little frustrating. Once I have an idea of what my options are I’ll be able to better explain it and discuss it with my husband, but for now I’m looking for simple straight-forward answers, hopefully from someone who has been in this position.