Can anyone give a suggestion on how to discern what God's will is? My wife and I live in a VERY expensive, VERY liberal area (Maryland, just outside of Washington, D.C.) and she was born here. Her entire family lives here, and all of them think that we are "too Catholic." Mostly because we go to Mass every Sunday, we try to raise our kids in a Catholic manner, we practice NFP, and we believe and accept everything the Church teaches. My whole family live is an affordable, extremely Catholic area (Louisville, KY), where I was born and raised. My family accepts the faith and follows it, but they try to make me feel guilty about not living in KY on an almost daily basis.
The problem is that I have a really good job where we live now, and my house is now worth less than we owe on it, which makes it hard to move. Another factor is that we DO NOT want to send our kids to public schools, especially in the area in which we live. Catholic schools are VERY expensive where we live, and they offer no discounts for siblings (which makes it very difficult if you plan on having a lot of kids and you aren't rich), so we are considering homeschooling although we are not totally sold on the idea yet. In KY catholic schools are affordable, and they offer great discounts for siblings. But it may be hard to get a job in KY.
Basically I want to know how to discern God's will for me and my family. Are there any books out there that help you to find God's will? Any sermons or talks that help you to understand what God's plan is for you?