With this post, the first thing I would like to say is that I do not mean to offend or make anyone feel unconfortable. I though that perhaps this would be the best medium to get my question answered. I have seen conflicting answeres in the matter, and I trully do not know the church’s official position. And if there is one, is it Dogma, or a Judgment.
I understand that when it comes to sexual acts, we should only part take in those that ,with our spouses, would conduct to the procreation of children. Nothing else. And so says Natural Family Planning.
However, here is my question, is there anything wrong with Foreplay, or Oral Sex? And to get more specific I reffer to Oral Sex being practiced by the husband to the wife?
And here is why, my main concern, is not myself, but my spouse. As a man, who was a way from the church for long, I know enough about sexuality to understand that women need aditional sexual stimulation to reach an orgasm. I am very confidend in my skin, and I know that although there might be the ocational claim of an incredible man’s virility; that this is the reality in most couples. It is as simple as that, man reach orgasm faster than women. I love my wife, and among other things care about showing her that love by helping her reach an orgasm, I know that that takes some foreplay or even Oral Sex.
What is the right approach to this situation?