The CCC says a person is guilty “of detraction who, without objectively valid reason, discloses another’s faults and failings to persons who did not know them.”
What would an “objectively valid reason” be? Examples?
The problem my husband and I are trying to figure out:
Person A in the family has some issues going on in their life. Person A comes to myself or my husband. We talk to them and try to help. But sometimes we don’t know if we’ve said the most effective/helpful thing to Person A. So, we contact Person B in the family to get their opinion on if what we said about the situation made sense, in the process telling Person B what Person A has said. Never with intent to harm anyone but only to help Person A more effectively the next time we talk to them. Person B tells us they won’t give us a critique of our advice or listen to anything about Person A because this is gossiping.