Hello: I have a very, kind of odd, situation. My father in law and mother in law were divorced, but got back together while I dated my husband. (They were divorced because he has previously cheated on her and had another child) At any rate, six years later and he cheated on my mother in law- she caught him- and then got engaged six months later and married three month after that.
My predicament is this- my kids adore my mother in law. She babysits them and they just love her. She is very hurt and to be blunt, destroyed, by what happened. She said she can never be in the same room with her ex again. And my father in law refuses to see My husband, myself and my 3 and 6 year old if he can’t bring his wife.
I have said, adamantly, that his father cannot make us explain divorce to our kids. Moreover, they will wonder, and ask my mother in law questions and then we will have to say we had the new wife over.
But the real problem is with our faith- well my faith. My husband doesn’t follow the church as tightly as I do. And I don’t want to explain divorce to a three and six year old. I get that this is life, but to explain the bizarre situation my father in law created, and then make them lie (don’t tell grandma about the new wife being over) isn’t right.
However, my husband keeps saying I can’t keep him from his father. And I said his father is always welcome but the wife isn’t right now because things are too fresh (with my mother in law) and I don’t want to explain divorce to kids.
Sorry to be so verbose! What do I do? Have them over? Stand my ground?? Any help greatly appreciated! As a Catholic, I have been struggling with this for months!