Okay, so I always feel guilty when I say "no" to my dad. My dad and step-mom invited to take dd (almost 6) to KY for the international equestrian competition (my dd loves horses). After hubby and I talked it over we agreed that she's not ready to go out of state overnight for a few days. I thanked them for their gracious invitation but informed them that we think she's not ready (we actually KNOW she's not ready since the one time she stayed over at mil's house without us she cried to have us pick her up). They are, of course, upset and disappointed to put it mildly. They think that it is all me, that I'm not ready to let her go, but that she's more than ready to go (my dad had no problem putting my brother on a plane by himself when he was 3). My mom also thinks that we should have let her go. When my dad is in town to visit he never just asks to take dd to the zoo for a few hours, heck, he doesn't even spend 1 on 1 time with her, he's too busy trying to visit everyone every time he's in town.
So my question, am I being a helicopter parent? I have always had anxiety when being away from those I love the most (from when I was little until I met DH I would cry when I was away from my mom too long - even in college I'd cry at least once a week) so I know this is something that I do have to fight. I guess that's why I'm questioning my view on it (though DH said no and he doesn't have separation anxiety issues, so the decision was always going to be "no").