Grudges


#1

As a youth and a recent(about 2 years) “revert” to the Catholic Church, do any of you converts and reverts to the Catholic Church have grudges to your previous churches. Grudges even to the point that you can’t even go back to the churches for a friendly visit to old friends.

My parents are Protestants so this doesn’t help with our relationship. But I am having a hard time with other churches, it seems like I have a restless grudge towards those other churches.

God Bless


#2

I too am a “revert”, finally at rest after a bout of atheism, followed by some years as a Protestant, followed by many years as nothing in particular (agnostic, I suppose) before coming home to Mother Church. But I don’t feel any resentment: I got much good out of going to those Protestant churches at that time, and indeed I think I can understand the Protestant viewpoint better having been one—this is very useful in apologetics. The people I met there were quite nice, but I left as the relativism became too much of a problem for me to accept (too many differing and sometimes contradictory “truths” about essential matters of faith). However, I didn’t go out with a bang, so to speak—no discussions or arguments, I just stopped attending. Did you have discussions about your “re-version” with members of your former churches? That might make a difference…

Having said all that, while I do not harbor any ill-feelings towards the churches I used to go to, or the people I attended with, I have to say that I regard Protestantism, taken as a whole, with much more negativity than I ever did before. I suppose some of this has been caused by reading more history, and in particular the history of the “Reformation” (I just finished historian Eamon Duffy’s “The Voices of Morebath”, and it didn’t help my attitude, I can assure you). Also, I am increasingly disturbed by the effects of relativism in our culture, and I rest some of that at the feet of Protestantism as well. I guess it could be said that while I love individual Protestants, I have an intense dislike for Protestantism.


#3

I GUESS IT DEPENDS ON WHAT CHURCH YOU WENT TO. I GREW UP CHURCH OF CHRIST, I WOULDN’T CALL IT A GRUDGE. BUT WHEN MY DAD WAS DYING,AND HE WANTED ME TO GO WITH HIM TO CHURCH, I WENT FOR HIM AND THE OVERT ANTI-CATHOLICISM IS HARD TO TAKE.NOT TO MENTION THE SHAKING HEADS AND PITY FOR MY DAD,AND OF COURSE THEIR ARE THE ONES THAT TRY TO SHOW YOU THE ERROR OF YOUR WAYS,AND TEEL YOU,THAT YOU WERE BROUGHT UP BETTER THATN THIS. BEFORE MY GRANDMOM ON MY DADS SIDE DIED SHE TOLD ME I WAS GOING TO HELL AND TAKING MY CHILDREN WITH ME.OUCH, THAT HURT, BUT I REALIZED THEY WERE SPEAKING OUT OF FEAR AND IGNORANCE. SO I PRAYED THAT EVEN AT THEIR LAST BREATH GOD WOULD EXPLAIN THINGS TO THEM. GOD BLESS


#4

[quote=BloodandFire]As a youth and a recent(about 2 years) “revert” to the Catholic Church, do any of you converts and reverts to the Catholic Church have grudges to your previous churches. Grudges even to the point that you can’t even go back to the churches for a friendly visit to old friends.

My parents are Protestants so this doesn’t help with our relationship. But I am having a hard time with other churches, it seems like I have a restless grudge towards those other churches.

God Bless
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I strayed from the reservation for a few years. I fell for the sola scriptura falacy and heard a lot of Catholic bashing during that time. Most of the people that I met were very faith-filled people. They just didn’t understand our faith. Holding a grudge towards Protestants will never bring them home and it will only hurt you. As Catholics, we need to study scripture, learn more about our faith and pray for our brothers and sisters in Christ.

:blessyou:
Shannin


#5

One shouldn’t hold grudges. Most Protestants I grant, are decent God-fearing people, and sincerely believe in what they say they believe.

Gerry :slight_smile:


#6

I do not hold a grudge against the church but I wish some of the money hungry, holier than thou creeps I met would learn to treat others better.
In fact I should send the church I attended a great big thank you card! I am much happier now.
Kat


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