You’ll see a lot of advice out there that suggests spoiling your wife.
However, your job is to get your wife into heaven. Generally speaking the road to heaven is much easier when your needs are met. So you have an obligation to meet your wife’s needs (but you can’t do that unless you know them - so communicate) hence the advice on spoiling her.
If your wife is a good, devout, Catholic woman that’s probably all the advice you’ll ever need.
Contrary to contemporary feminist thought, however, women do have flaws and they aren’t naturals at practicing Christianity (no more than men).
Don’t be afraid to raise the bar, expect some sacrifice. Give of yourself totally, but to expect nothing in return is not even Christlike. Christ expects something in return from us. He expects our love, devotion, and obedience. Remember she’s not going to get to heaven if she’s in love with her mortal sins.
Keep your eyes on heaven. With that in mind you’ll know when to spoil her and when to lead her.