[quote="C794, post:1, topic:331385"]
I've been trying not to post threads like this, but after three weeks of uncomfortable experiences in confession, I have to ask. Okay, so lately in confession I've been interrupted by the priest. Usually it's because he thinks I'm done and begins to give me absolution. I have it in me to interrupt the priest once or twice, but after a while I can't bring my self to do it. As a result, I end up leaving out sins. Not that it's my intention to hide them, I enter the confessional fully prepared to do so; I just get so nervous/confused that I struggle to mention them. Well, also, I've had the priest interrupt me because he didn't want me confessing sins that I was unable to mention in a previous confession, due to what I mentioned above. Since I want to obey the priest so I don't mention them. The problem is that I had another sin that was committed that day and it was closely related to those that I was told not to mention. As a result, I ended up leaving out that sin; I felt that the only way to confess it was to mention the ones I was told I couldn't mention. Now my intention wasn't to conceal it, I was only trying to be obedient. Still I find the incident concerning. Am I doing anything wrong in these situations?
I am taking my concerns to my confessor like I have been told and it has helped some, but these experiences in the confessional leave my uncomfortable. Would it be wrong if I asked the priest to not interrupt until I'm done because it makes it difficult for me to finish? I hope I don't sound critical of any priests; I know that they are trying to help in these situations and they do help. Quite a bit actually. The problem is what happens afterwards. The problem isn't with them it's me. I can't think once I'm interrupted and I become scared to offend the priest. Especially since I like them, and can tell that they really care.
I'm going to make an assumption that your confession was rather long and detailed and the priest started when he thought you were done. If this assumption is not correct, please excuse me and just regard this as a general matter.
First, the priest does not need to hear every little gory detail. He needs to hear the sins in number and kind. If you do a good examination of conscience before you step into the confessional, that should be a relatively quick process. For example:
Bless me Father for I have sinned, it's been one month since my last confession. In that time,
*]I missed going to Mass on a Holy Day of Obligation on one occasion.
*]I received communion sacrilegiously on one occasion.
*]I committed theft on two occasions
*]I took the Lord's name in vain on several occasions
*]I told a serious lie on one occasion and I withheld the truth from somebody who needed to know on two occasions
*]I spread rumors by revealing facts about somebody to those who did not need to know on three occasions
*]I had sexual fantasies that I did not immediately banish from my mind on two occasions
If you go into more detail...for example,
I really needed to have some paper for my printer at home and did not have time to get to Staples and so I borrowed a ream of paper from my work, but I completely forgot to buy my work a replacement ream and now it's so late to bring it back I'm afraid my work is going to fire me because I'm sure that somebody saw me took that ream of paper oh Father I am so scared how am I going to feed my three little children Oh Father my ex husband ran off with that hussy and left me holding the back and I really need that job Father what will I do Father oh goodness can you please help me Father I don't know what to do
Frankly, if your confession resembles the second example more than the first, you may well be taking too long. The priest may recognize that there is a line of people behind you and knows they need to be served. (I've had to wait in line behind somebody who took a full 15 minutes for confession..with 10 people in line behind that person and only 30 minutes for weekly confession before Mass...and that has happened far more than just once)
On the other hand, if you are just going through number and kind, as above, and the priest interrupts you to get a little bit of clarifying detail (so as to judge the severity of what you've done), then I can full well understand your frustration. I don't think it would be unreasonable to ask him to wait until you're done before asking because you're worried you will inadvertently leave something off if you're interrupted.
Bottom line is if you are just confessing number and kind and the priest interrupts, then by all means explain that you're worried you'll forget, so please wait.
If, on the other hand, if you feel a need to make a long detailed confession...where the priest may have a concern for the people behind you in line, may I suggest that you make an appointment outside of your parish's normal confession times? He might be better able to focus on a detailed confession at that time...
Also, if I can suggest, you may wish to review Father Z's 20 tips for a good confession.