What I would have answered in red. I am always quick with a comeback.:rolleyes:
[quote="VeritasLuxMea, post:1, topic:274761"]
This is awhile back, so I'm going to paraphrase because I don't remember everyone's exact words.
A few months after we married, we were sitting around a dinner table with the Priest who presided at our wedding, a couple other family members and one of the Pre Cana couples that instructed us.
So the Priest starts joking with me about how, "You're going to learn that it's easier to just go along with whatever your wife says." "Well lucky for me then, my wife and I talkabout things and she doesn't "say" things to me any more than I would "say" them to her."
He continues, "See, there's an easy way and a hard way, [my name here], the hard way is to try and fight it for hours and lose anyway, the easy way is just to do as she says."
"No, the easy way in the end is to discuss it and decide what is best for both of us no matter what the rest of you do."
The wife in the Pre Cana couple says, "[Her husband's name] has learned the value of the phrase, 'yes, dear.' "And hopefully that is a term both my wife and I will both use every day."
My wife turns to me and says in a joking tone, "That's right and you better get used to it!"
(And yes, here is where you should just smile and talk to her about it at home later. No "comebacks needed at your bride.)
-end of story for the most part.
I hadn't thought about it too much at the time, but there were a number of such conversations (with all sorts of people) leading up to the wedding and even afterwards that followed a similar model - some worse than others.
I think this stuff is supposed to be a joke, but frankly, I do not find it at all funny. I find it demeaning and wrong. And yet I have to sit there and pretend like it's funny or risk offending people. If I speak up and say "Excuse me, that's inappropriate," then I'm treated like a guy who can't take a joke. Excuse me... just because I do not like inappropriate jokes doesn't mean I have a bad sense of humor.
I would not sit there and listen to misogynistic or racist jokes either... but for these ones it has been very difficult to deal with. Like when the former Maid of Honor tried to tell me that my wedding was "all about the bride" and it was "her day," and I tried to explain that it is God's day to sanction our love for each other.
I know others will accuse me of being oversensitive, but I think that's a cop-out. Anyway.. your thoughts?