I have, in our 10 years of marriage, slapped my husband, probably a total of 5 times. I’ve gotten much better, and haven’t gotten physical with him for several years now.
Last night, he was sitting in the recliner watching some sports thing, and I grabbed the remote to set the timer for a show I wanted to watch later. You would have thought that remote was gold-- he jumped up and tried to grab it away from me and said “Don’t just come in here and grab the remote away from me!” So… I threw the remote at his head. Pretty hard. He jumped up, hit me on the back as I was walking away, and then bowed up and said “You wanna go??!” It was a little bit amusing to me, even though disturbing at the same time.
I was already annoyed at him. We watch a show together on Sunday nights, but he chose to read about his team on the internet that would be playing on Monday night for 3 hours, so I watched it alone. Monday night he went to a friend’s house to watch the game. Tuesday night we usually watch a show together, but I suggested recording it, so we could get to bed early. He said fine, and then sat himself down in the recliner and started watching sports. The kids were already in bed-- he did help with this a little bit after he got home at 8:00 and I had fed, bathed and put one out of four kids down. So I made a plate and ate alone in the dining room while he watched sports. I was thinking he would probably forget to set the dvr, that is why I went to get the golden remote.
Anyway, what do you think? Are we totally disfunctional??
He was ready to make up this morning. I want nothing to do with him. I know I was physical with him too, but I just keep thinking about him hitting me, and I want to be as far away from him as possible. He said this morning “Oh sorry about last night. Can we hug?” I said “no” and walked past him. Then he said, “Come one, you are the one who threw a remote at my head!” Like, you KNOW it was all your fault, I’m just giving you an obiligatory apology so we can move on. He never thinks he is wrong about anything!! Any apology I have ever gotten from him has been so half-***, along with a reason why he did what he did, etc.
Lay it on me-- Do we need to get serious counseling?