Hate ex-girlfriend so much!


#1

hi all please help…

i was having a scary girlfriend, she always angry to me, she is always sensitive, and she had a very high sex interest that makes me feel more scared about our future.
at first she is a very patience girl, but after 2 months become my girlfriend, she’s showing some strange attitude, she didn’t have any girl friends, so her friend is all boys, so that makes her a little bit rude and harsh, i alredy talk to her why ? she’s said girls are slow and she doesnt like talking about gossip and going to shopping, at first i thought she was special which God sent me to accompany, but after that, she always mad at me, i dont know why, i never mad at her, i always said with patience “Pls remember God when youre in anger, idont want to see you like that”, at first she always calmed if i said that, but later she become more furious than before. in that day i thought God wanted me to change her to be a patience girl, or God want me to be a strong person and patience too.
but after that too, her frequency in anger is more and more, in one week there’s always 3 or 4 days we just in deep anger. in sunday too, and even in the church, she mad at me, my friends said maybe she’s crazy there’s noone who dare to show anger in church.
she always feel tired, eventhough she is not sick or what, she also have a high sex interest, i’m worrried she will cheated on me if we are married.
yet one day she told me she feel tired and doesnt want to goes to campus and want to be with me, i hate a lazy person. i just remembered my lecturer is a catholic person who maybe can give advice to her. so i suggested her to go to my lecturer.
but this is the most scariest moment of my life !!
my lecturer is somekind like a ghostbuster or what, my lecturer said that inside my girlfren body theres a spirit who is evil. my lecturer said that when she talked to her, my girlfriend said “you are an annoying old lady”, i was shocked. theres no student said like that to her own lecturer right ? except her lecturer is a bad person.then i go to meet them both, we talked each other, my girlfriend didnt know that she said such a thing to our lecturer. then my lect. said i saw a girl who is fat and looked very scary that girl looked like my girl friend. i remembered that my girlfriend’s mother is already passed away. so i thought it was her, i showed my lecturer her moms photo. and my lect said yes she is. instantly my giirlfren crying. i became more confused, and i dont know what to do. then my lect want us to pray our father in heaven, but when we are in 2nd our father in heaven my girlfriend suddenly smile strangely, then my lect said “who are you” to my girl fren and of course i have never seen exorcism in front of my eyes!!! and my girlfren was angry like she was angry with me, she said “you are all monkey”. then my lect just grab her hand and pushed it with some lime or orange or what, i dont know, my girl fren is just feel she is in great sick, i feel so sad. ( this is too long story and i still scared to remeber it )
one day iwas in a deep stress, she is angry with me, my boss was furious because my job is got passed the deadline, my college and study are mess, and all of my friend think i’m a selfish because i care more with my job and girlfriend. i thought that day i will never believe in God anymore. in my office i got 2 bread, i remembered my girlfren said “share”, so i eat one, and igave her one of 2 bread. she doesnt want to eat she want to share her part with me too. i dont want to because its her part. she threatened me to throw it to garbage if i dont eat it. then i think she;s kidding bcause she already “cleaned”, but what ? she throw it to garbage in front of my eyes !!! and she is running away just like in the film or movie.
then my mom and my papa called me in phone, they dont like that girl. i try to convinced my parents that i will change her. but my mom crying and my father is angry with me, i never met my family condition like this, so i thought i must leave her. then i leave her. but she still want to go back with me with every ways,
now i hateee her so mucchhh !!! he just like a pain in the head, i always angry at her if she got near me. i always run. idont want to see her face. but we still talked sometimes.
now i dont know what to do, i feel empty now, i want to go where i was happy everyday, but now i dont know what to do. i dont want to go back wiht her ! i hate her so much until now!
now i worried about marriage, i doubt i will find a right person to marry with, even i’m too young to think about it, it makes me feel empty and have no direction now, i just sleep all day, i rise again and played soccer with my friends again, but still i feel empty.
i prayed to God, but i don’t understand what should i do next ?
thank u, sorry its a long story, and a fair english, but i feel happy when i told this. what should i do to feel my empty ? :confused:


#2

First of all:

W E L C :wave: M E to the forum

Sounds like your ex is bipolar. You tried to help you and I can understand your feeling of loss, but don’t be dishartened. God has a plan for both of you (maybe not together).

The woman you marry should make you feel like a king, and you should make her feel like a queen. The struggles will come and go, but your love will always be there. In the mean time, you should rely in the LORD to fill that hole in your heart. The first thing you need to do is turn that anger over to the Lord. It will eat you alive if you let it. So let go of it and let God start the healing process.

You are among friends here…we are here to help each other.


#3

Your English was just fine. Thanks for sharing your problems.

God wants you to place all your trust in Him so keep on praying for the right person for you. In time, He will reveal His will for you. Your faith in God sounds beautiful. You deserve a wonderful and loving woman of peace - not anger.


#4

I’m not familiar with the term “lecturer.” Could you help me understand who these people are and what role they play?

Alan


#5

[quote=AlanFromWichita]I’m not familiar with the term “lecturer.” Could you help me understand who these people are and what role they play?

Alan
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well she is my own teacher in my college…

i dont know her very well but she looks like a very strict person.
and she always remind me to pray everytime i met her. also when she cast away evil from my ex she use our father in heaven and hail Mary.

btw thx all GBU


#6

NATIVE AMERICAN TALE ABOUT TWO WOLVES

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between 2 “wolves” inside us all.

One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith."

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed." *


#7

[quote=dhgray]Sounds like your ex is bipolar. QUOTE]

My son liked a girl who turned out the be bipolar. At one point, after she was diagnosed, we finally told him he could only see her at social/ church functions. He was becoming to involved - thinking he could help her. I’m not sure he was convinced that he couldn’t help her, but he got over her pretty quickly. —KCT
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#8

My son liked a girl who turned out the be bipolar. At one point, **after she was diagnosed, we finally told him he could only see her at social/ church functions. **He was becoming to involved - thinking he could help her. I’m not sure he was convinced that he couldn’t help her, but he got over her pretty quickly.

I couldn’t help but notice this. You wouldn’t let your son see her because she was bi-polar? Almost all the females in my family are bipolar, or have some form of mental disorder. A few of my friends do too. They are really good people and don’t ask for this to happen. Most of the time, they don’t know what they are doing. With proper treatment they can live normal lives. I’ve seen it. I don’t want to sound rude but it looks like you fell for the stigma…


#9

[quote=sarcophagus]I couldn’t help but notice this. You wouldn’t let your son see her because she was bi-polar? Almost all the females in my family are bipolar, or have some form of mental disorder. A few of my friends do too. They are really good people and don’t ask for this to happen. Most of the time, they don’t know what they are doing. With proper treatment they can live normal lives. I’ve seen it. I don’t want to sound rude but it looks like you fell for the stigma…
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That’s an interesting point. Many times people who are diagnosed with bipolar tend to think they can “help” each other and get over it, and this causes problems when taken to an extreme. We as parents, however, like “what’s best” for our kids so of course we would rather them spend time with people who don’t have special needs themselves and therefore perhaps not as able to meet the needs of another? I’m not sure what it is but I am certainly more interested in the behavior rather than diagnostic labels, because the latter usually have little bearing on anything pertinent except for what type of medicine therapy they are receiving and the general way they go about what ever it is they do.

Alan


#10

My sister-in-law is bipolar and while I love her very much, I could not ever live with her. It’s apparent that no one else can either, because she has gone through 2 marriages, many relationships, excellent high paying jobs, friendships, and blown through more dollars than most of us could ever dream of including inheritences and loans, and a line of credit on her home. I pray for her every day, but it is an incredible challenge for her to stay “on the baseline”. It seems she is always either above (a little bit manic) or below, ( quite depressed). It takes an incredibly strong and understanding person to be around her. If you don’t do things her way, it’s the highway.


#11

[quote=dhgray]Sounds like your ex is bipolar.
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Unless you have a medical degree, please do NOT diagnose illnesses over the Internet. There can be many other reasons she is unhappy.

You tried to help you and I can understand your feeling of loss, but don’t be dishartened. God has a plan for both of you (maybe not together).

I assume you’re trying to say that he tried to help her. That is the best he can do. It’s best they go their separate ways under the circumstances.


#12

Thanks All, I’m so happy now, i dont know why, hahaha

( looks like ) she has left my life now, i dont know why i feel new hahahaha :slight_smile:

thanks for all your support, God bless this forum. God Bless the internet hahahha

hey i’ve prayed all day and turn my anger on God, but what ? hahaha, God give me a new friend and its a girl, lovely, nice, calm, often smile, and always said “GBU dont forget to eat, and dont sleep to late” in the end of our conversation hahahha

well i thought a very strong oak its not a very strong oak if it cant handle a very strong wind. hahahaha, and the most important that its root must be strong too and the name of the root is FAITH

GOD BLESS U EVERYONE, I LOVE THIS FORUM… THANKS ALOT SEE U ALL IN ANOTHER THREADS… LETS HELP OTHERS TOO


#13

I am so very happy for you. I was really worried. It’s terrible for a good person to allow someone who doesn’t not appreciate their goodness to bring them (the good person) down.

I’ll be looking forward to your future post.

God bless you. :smiley:


#14

PagZ ~

God bless you, brother.

Consecrate yourself, body and soul to the Immaculate Heart of Mary. And settle for nothing less then a nice, pretty, sweet catholic girl who loves Jesus and Mary more then anything.

Don’t let mean girls boss you around. :wink:


#15

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