I’m putting this thread in the Non-Catholic Religions section because I want people from all faith communities to have a chance to respond.
Have you ever been hurt by your church?
I’ve been on CAF for many years, and many of the other old-timers here know that my husband and I were kicked out of our Evangelical Protestant church in 2002. I won’t go into the details at this time. Back when it happened, I wrote it out it great detail, and it’s about 70 pages. I’ve thought about doing a proposal to a publishing house, but who would want it? It’s disturbing.
My husband and I were just talking this morning about the effect that this awful incident has had on our family and is still having. To this day, we have problems trusting even our beloved Catholic Church. My husband is one of the Catholics who is not sure what to think of Pope Francis. He’s afraid that now the rock is turning over and the worms and bugs underneath the rock will be exposed.
Although one of our daughters converted to Catholicism and is a devout Catholic, she has never been able to establish a love relationship, and I can’t help but wonder if the betrayal by our church influences her ability to get close to someone.
Our other daughter (the one who suffered the most abuse from our church) is still not attending any church, and we suspect that she has too many awful memories.
We know other ex-Protestant converts to Catholicism who have been hurt by their Protestant churches who feel the same way as we do–they have difficulty fully trusting, and they always harbor a little bit of worry that perhaps the whole thing will blow up in their faces and they’ll discover that Catholicism isn’t true either, and then what? It’s a Secret Fear. We all know that Christians weren’t meant to be alone, but we can’t quite bring ourselves to totally trust “church” because of the hurt that we experienced in our “churches.”
Have any of you been hurt by your church? How has it affected your journey to heaven?