At a previous parish, I brought up liturgical abuses twice (over a period of 4 years).
The first time, I emailed my pastor to let him know that certain visiting priests had a habit of pouring the Precious Blood from the primary chalice into another chalice, after having received it (and distributed it to the EMHCs). I mentioned Redemptionis Sacramentum, and suggested a couple of ways the priests could avoid it (the most reasonable of which seemed to me to be consecrating only enough in the primary chalice for himself, and then using the other chalices for distributing to the EMHCs). The reply email mentioned “liturgical police”. I don’t have a copy of the email conversation anymore, but I have a feeling my tone was not what it could or should have been. The problem mostly went away over time, although occasionally one of the visiting priests would still do it.
The second time, I emailed one of the members of the parish liturgical board whom I knew quite well. At the previous year’s Holy Thursday Mass, we had six priests present… and among them, only the pastor of the parish distributed Holy Communion. The other five priests sat down after having received, and seven other EMHCs came up to help. The following Lent, I emailed that liturgical board member to bring up the matter with her. Looking over the email thread, I wish I had adopted a different tone of voice:
At Mass on the Holy Thursday, we usually have a few visiting priests concelebrating the Mass. I think the past two or three years I’ve attended Holy Thursday Mass, these concelebrants haven’t actually distributed Communion, but rather just come up to the altar during the Eucharistic Prayer and then go back to their pew once they’ve consumed the Eucharist; in their place are seven EMHCs. I think it is more appropriate for the priests who are concelebrating or otherwise present at Mass to assist the celebrant in the distribution of Communion (unless, like some of the particularly aged priests, they are unable to do so). So this is basically just a request to schedule only as many EMHCs as will be necessary to assist our pastor and whichever other priests will be there.
I would rather have used language like “affirm their priesthood” or something like that. But the good thing is that the practice did, in fact, change!
(And the parish is going to have a deacon in June, and they’re making sure that the lectors and EMHCs know how the presence of a deacon affects their ministries, which implies that the deacon will be reading the Prayer of the Faithful and acting as a minister of Holy Communion.)
I was a member of my parish pastoral council for 2.5 years of a 3-year term… we moved several towns away in November (putting us in a whole other county and diocese).