LokisMom is at it again.
I have a confession to make. I WANT children for selfish reasons, and I was wondering if that was the same level of morally wrong as NOT wanting children for selfish reasons.
Here’s the scoop. Im in my late twenties, married, and have no children yet. In the last couple of months, my hub and I have established some stability in our life. He started getting paid decent money and we will be buying house. Thus, for the past few months, we have stopped using NFP to avoid, and are just not using anything right now. Not trying to avoid or to have. Just letting God do what he does best.
But the thing is, I really really don’t like children. I have 0 interest in doing mom chores. I worry about what pregnancy will do to my body. I dread the prospect of having to give up so much of my time/life/freedom to take care of kids. I don’t like it at all.
However, I don’t want to be one of those old folks in nursing homes who no one ever comes to visit. I actually dont want to be in a nursing home at all! And the fact that women tend to outlive their husbands, makes me dread the loneliness of old age even more!
Basically, the ONLY motivation for me having children is so I don’t have a miserable lonely life when I am old, and so they can take care of me in old age.
Since my reasons for having children are selfish, would the morally correct thing for me to do be to avoid? Is having children for selfish reasons the same sin as avoiding them for selfish reasons?