Having Hard Time to forgive myself


#1

I know and I believe that Jesus Christ is loving and forgiving. I pray him daily . I hold rosary asking for Guidance and forgiveness.

I just cannot forgive myself. I am a self critical Deep thinking guy and I am trying hard to forgive myself for sins I did and Letting myself suffer and letting people step over me …

I am not sure how to handle that.

Guilt is burning me. I know Lord is peaceful Loving and best example of forgiveness . I have faith and I know he is around me. I just having hard time let the guilt feeling go.


#2

I have a hard time forgiving myself, too. I wish I had some super wise advise but all I can suggest is to try to let go of perfectionism. We have sinned, we have asked forgiveness in the confessional, and it is over now. “I can’t believe I did that”, “I can’t believe I did that” serves no purpose. This is easier said than done, I know. For myself, I think it is a manifestation of pride. I can’t believe I did such and such. Well, why not? I’m no better than anyone else. It is a feeling that I let myself down, that I knew better but did it anyway, etc. But I have read on this forum enough now to know that everyone deals with sin.

I have felt guilty after the sacrament of reconciliation. Sometimes I walk out with that free as a bird feeling, sometimes I don’t. I try to remember that I go by faith, not feelings. I am forgiven whether I feel like it or not.

You cannot change the past. You cannot change the thoughts you had 5 minutes ago. The only thing you can change is the thoughts you are having right now this minute. Don’t allow your mind to keep re-living the past. Pray “Blood of Jesus wash over my mind” or something to that effect. Pray a Divine Mercy Chaplet. :heart:


#3

First off a question… Have you been to confession? If not, I would really encourage you go and lay this down at the feet of Christ.

If you have, I’d encourage you to talk more with a priest about it. Remember, even if we can’t forgive ourselves, There is nothing that Christ cannot forgive.

Maybe my blog posts on reconciliation and suffering can help you.

Prayers for you.

findingthecatholicchurch.blogspot.com/2014/09/the-sacrament-of-reconciliation.html?m=1

findingthecatholicchurch.blogspot.com/2014/02/should-christians-have-to-suffer.html?m=1


#4

I had this same problem for many years,you can to to Confession ,and feel no better,
Because we fail to Forgive ourselves, what you should do is this,
Analys yourself, seek out what made you do these bad things in the first place,
Some people steal from others just because they can,just for the heck of it,
While other people steal because they have a stealing compulsion,
They just MUST. Steal, then ask yourself WHAT. Made you steal ?
I used the occasion of stealing as just an example of one particular compulsion,
Ask yourself what are you lacking in your life that makes you want to do what is a sin ,
Once you figure that out you will understand your compulsion better,
Once you understand,you can better understand how to forgive yourself,


#5

dont let people walk over you, tell a few decent people at home, at work, friends. About bullying.
A problem shared is a problem halved.

Stand up for yourself (within the commandments).
Make changes needed, eg can you change jobs if your boss is offensive


Not forgiving yourself is pride.
Pride is what made satan fall.
St Faustina saw in her visions a sinner receive forgiveness at death, and heard satan shouting; "He was mine, you forgave him, but you never forgave me!’ To which Jesus replied, “He apologised, he repented, he asked for forgiveness.’ To which satan replied, 'I will never repent, never, never, never”.

St Peter fell. But he came back and repented.

Judas fell and never sought forgiveness from Jesus.

I read somewhere Jesus told a holy person, “When you confess, I can no longer remember your sins! I have forgotten them! The sins are gone from my sight. I could not remember them if I wanted to.” (Obviously God knows everything, but what He means by this is forgiveness is absolute).

In exorcisms satan can shout out the sins of the people present, but not if they have confessed them.
So confessed sins are trully erased!

Jesus wants you to be humble, which means thinking,; "Yes I messed up, but God has forgiven me. I’m not going to do that again by God’s grace.’
St Margaret Mary who had visions of the Sacred Heart wrote; “You are meant to have God’s peace ALWAYS. If you slip, Repent, and RECLAIM that PEACE INSTANTLY.”

A priest told me once, confession is a gift from God.
If you don’t open His present God will feel hurt.

Not accepting His forgiveness with trust is not opening His present of peace He has for you.

Confess if you haven’t.
And be at peace.


#6

Thats the hard part I cannot go to confession since am going throught baptisim . so until next year I cannot go to confession . I wish I can go . Not being able to experience the sacriments as a regular catholic makes my life harder.

I remember my dad telling me I am sinking in her “Since we do not share the same religion”, start makes me think what If I do deserve hell. I know deep i never done a great sin . But seeing my world falling apart and I am losing house , Car , Wife and sinking in dept … makes me sometimes What If I am being cursed. Again I love lord . but I start thinking what If my faith is not enought thats why I am deeling with suffering and guilt feeling.

I want to be ask close as I can to the lord. but pain depression and despair is clouding my mind I broke up at work in tears today . I am having a melt down … and each time I think it cannot get worse than this it damn does.

Sorry guys again I love lord but life I am living now feels like real hell


#7

Go talk to your priest. Make an appointment and lay it out there. You may not yet receive your sacraments but you will feel better and he can give you tools to heal.


#8

Don’t worry about your confession!

Jesus told St Faustina, “My grace starts working from the moment you DECIDE you will confess.”

You will confess.
Be at peace. God has you in the queue for baptism first.

Jesus Himself founded the RC church, told us He was the Bread of Life come down from Heaven, and that He is trully present in the Eucharist “This is My Body.” Its biblical. The apostles were alive and passed on RC tradition to their friends who became known as the Church Fathers (the people who knew the apostles first hand).
People founded the christian faiths.
Jesus Himself founded the RC church.

You are on the way Home!

Hold on.
Ask God your petitions one by one. Then Start thanking God for helping you out of these problems and He will. God asks for faith before a miracle. Thank Him in blind faith and He will help you.

Don’t think about negative things.
At mass on saturday the priest said, people of hope are people of joy.

Make a list of all your realistic hopes big and small;
Eg weekend break, mass on sunday, baptism, to relax and read a book in the evening,

Tell your problems to a decent priest, and some friends.
A problem shared is a problem halved.
Let the problem out and leave it there, dont carry it inside.

You might not be in the RC church yet but.you can:
Keep holy water in your house and car,
Get a priest to enroll you in the brown scapular
Wear a blessed miraculous medal

Pray the st michael prayer daily to protect you from the bad spirit making life hard on you
Psalm 91 is good for protection
Angel guardian prayer


#9

I think in contemporary culture, there’s a widespread epidemic where we consider our feelings to be synonymous with who we are as a human being. They are our defining feature.

Change your externals so that your internals change as well. Make a tangible list of goals. Think to yourself, “What is it that I need to do in order to be a productive, compassionate person that changes the world around me to the model kingdom of Christ” ,and then set about a concrete plan to do them. Do not wait for you to be miraculously purged of feelings of guilt, anger, cowardice, etc. before you go about this. That would be putting the cart before the horse. First you act, and then - over time - your body will become more in conformity with your will, including your feelings. If you wait for your internals to change first, you will wait forever. You will never, ever “feel ready”

You can petition to God, but do not expect for God to remove your burden beforehand. He will likely withhold this petition. According to many Doctors of the Church, in God’s wisdom, it pleases God for it to be this way, so that in our uncertainty and anxiety, we will learn to better trust in His power when moving forward. If we would already be made “perfect” individuals before living out the Gospel to those around us, we would so easily rely on our own strength, and ultimately, we would become despicable because of it.

The keystone to all of this is prayer. Mankind is incapable of following God’s will, unless he prays for the Divine grace from Heaven to grant him this power. When you rise, tell God that you love him, and pray daily to Mary, to be given the necessary power from Heaven to accomplish what you ought to do.


#10

Those who follow Jesus need to pray for protection

Satan cannot bear the Name Jesus. I know of two situations where people experienced the presence of the bad spirit, and the Name Jesus said repeatedly sent the bad spirit flying. Jesus Name means ‘God Saves.’

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Did you know satan cant stand a single drop of Holy Water? St Theresa of Avila was experiencing attacks from him and when she used holy water, he left immediately, running, and could not come back for a long while.

Have a bottle of holy water in your car, kitchen, and bedroom. Bless your room with a few little sprinkles Before sleep and command evil spirits in jesus name to leave you and your property

Get a priest to say mass in your home and to bless your home with holy water (I heard of a farmer in debt who did this, and afterward everything worked out okay!)

Also: St Michael prayer. A guy in the deliverance ministry in my country prays this prayer against evil spirits when he is under attack and gets instant help from st michael.
Say this prayer daily.

The closer you are to God the more you need to pray for protection against evil.

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Dont be afraid. You are a child of God. You have Jesus.
Fear gives the bad spirit ground.
Courage in Jesus puts him to flight!

The bible says; “every knee shall bow, every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord.” “And the 12 came back marvelling saying; 'Lord even the demons submit to us when we use your Name.”

Powerful prayer, ;
Evil MUST obey commands given in Jesus Name;
“In the Name of Jesus Christ, I command all evil spirits and all their companions, to leave me, my family, relatives, friends, associatives, inlaws, and acquaintances, our places, possessions and sources of supply, immediately and directly without any harm, manifestation, or revenge on any of the people, places and things mentioned, and command them to go directly to the Presence of the Lord Jesus Christ in the Nearest Blessed Sacrament of the Altar where the good Lord Jesus Christ will dispose of them according to His good and holy wishes, and I forbid them from returning in Jesus Name. i say in the Name of Jesus that all evil is powerless towards me, and are to remove their influences from me”

Powerful prayer for protection to be said daily

larrycummins.ie/Prayers_of_Protection_Deliveran.html

These prayer weapons work!

Negative thoughts dont come from God, or lead to God.
You must think, “EVERYTHING WILL work out OKAY.” And BELIEVE it, by an act of the will.

Retrain your thoughts. Think God’s thoughts.
We become our thoughts.

But also, faith lets God act. Faith first, miracle following second. Negative thoughts are not faith.
Each miracle in the bible Jesus asked or tested their faith first.

Believe and await God’s intercession in His timeframe


#11
  :hmmm:  ,,we just might be more alike than I thought,,

I also lost a wife, house,car, flats Broke., sons ignored me though having there minds poised by whatever it was, one thing that I think saved me,I had a shift work, working long hours, working with really rough men, I physicly worked my stress out of me,
But that’s me,
But life moves on, I am now with a wonderful woman, a life it good, I might P M you later,
Got to go,


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Jesus to St. Faustina -

**“O, how much I am hurt by a soul’s distrust! Such a soul professes that I am Holy and Just, but does not believe that I am Mercy and does not trust in my Goodness. Even the devils glorify My Justice but do not believe in My Goodness.” **(Diary, 300).

**“My child, all your sins have not wounded My Heart as painfully as your present lack of trust does — that after so many efforts of My love and mercy, you should still doubt My goodness.” **(1486).

**“My Heart is sorrowful, Jesus said, because even chosen souls do not understand the greatness of My mercy. Their relationship [with Me] is, in certain ways, imbued with mistrust. Oh, how much that wounds My Heart! Remember My Passion, and if you do not believe My words, at least believe My wounds.” **(Diary, 379).

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Divine Mercy Image - St. Faustina

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Jesus to St Faustina

"These two rays issued forth from the very depths of My tender mercy when My agonized Heart was opened by a lance on the Cross." (Diary, 299)

"My Heart overflows with great mercy for souls, and especially for poor sinners. If only they could understand that I am the best of Fathers to them and that it is for them that the Blood and Water flowed from My Heart as from a fount overflowing with mercy." (Diary, 367).

"Tell sinful souls not to be afraid to approach Me; speak to them of My great mercy" (Diary, 1396).

**“I never reject a contrite heart.” **(Diary, 1485).

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Jesus to St Faustina

**"Let the greatest sinners place their trust in My mercy. They have the right before others to trust in the abyss of My mercy. My daughter, write about My mercy towards tormented souls. Souls that make an appeal to My mercy delight Me. To such souls I grant even more graces than they ask. I cannot punish even the greatest sinner if he makes an appeal to My compassion, but on the contrary, I justify him in My unfathomable and inscrutable mercy. Write: before I come as a just Judge, I first open wide the door of My mercy. He who refuses to pass through the door of My mercy must pass through the door of My justice…… **(Diary, 1146).

How to Pray the Chaplet of Divine Mercy

I hope this has helped

God Bless

Thank you for reading
Josh


#15

Thank you all for support being a new born catholic alone is hard since you want to learn more about Jesus but there always something to learn and ask.
Phil thanks for your world give me hope . my wife was my first love and we been for 6 years so I still have my heart burning.

OurLadysServant I start going to church for learning next week I would like to learn more prayers . I can recall few but thank you for links and may lord bless you.

EmeraldOak’s maybe more falling in past is am afraid of pain. more things going wrong and committing sins. Now i am commiting my life to the lord . I would like to be best man I can be. may lord gives me strength for that.

May lord bless you Josh. I enjoyed your posts, I will print them and keep them above my bed. I am new catholic and I am prefectionist and been trying to purify myself since am in process in baptizim . now I see fogivness for lord who sacrificied himself for us is a fondamental part of being christian. Just when life falls apart it is easy to think way and try to relate it to punishment and sins.
Being catholic is a journey and I need to be more fimilar with sculptures and scolar readings.

You made me smile for first time in 3 weeks.

Thank you my friends


#16

You can still go to mass each sunday, or Saturday evening.

Daily is optional.

Just dont go for communion until you are in thr RC church completely.

Join a catholic prayer group.

Learn the rosary and divine mercy.

Get a brown scapular and ask a priest to read the enrolment prayer over you. Our Lady promised whoever wears the brown scapular will not end up in hell.
Ask him to bless a miraculous medal and wear it. Our Lady promised whoever wears it will receive great graces.

Start reading catholic books, they are POWERFUL and will change you


#17

I start working with church to get more involved. I know sadly I cannot take communion . but what does RC mean?

Thanks you all I feel more peaceful now


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I hope you don’t mind if I share a piece out of St Faustina’s Diary that I believe may also help.

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