I was diagnosed with Lichen Sclerosis about 3 years ago and the medication is not working anymore. It is so so bad now that my husband is not able to end our relations with intercourse. In the last month it has become just too excruciatingly painful for me.
I had asked my confessor when this happened the first time if it was okay that we just got a little bit of the semen in the entrance and he said that this was okay. It got a little better for a while so we were able to have intercourse although not without pain for me.
Now that it is so painful we are just doing what we did in the above paragraph every time. I am worried because the first time we did it this way we did not know that we would not be able to do it the right way so my priest may have just said it was okay because it was not our intent and now we know that we won’t be able to have intercourse but we are still doing it this way. Is this moral? I am really scared to hear the answer since my dh is not Catholic and he won’t abstain from relations. Sorry if this is TMI but I did not know how else to explain it.