I am new here and this is my first question, bear with me please.
My husband and I were both raised Catholic, got married in the Church and have 3 children. I did take the Pill early on, in denial of the Church’s teachings I suppose. We then did NFP between our children and after our last we discussed and discussed and my husband had a vasectomy. But I take full blame as well…it was not his decision alone. We have since beat ourselves up over it, we felt like we knew the ‘rules’ and slapped God in the face. It is terrible! We went to confession TOGETHER, did the penance and geez, don’t really feel better. The priest told us that if we were truly sorry that we were forgiven. He said it was not required to have the prodecure reversed. He said we could do NFP anyway, but that was not required either. I supposed we both feel like we get to ‘have our cake and eat it too.’ We did not go to confession only because of fear of hell, we were truly sorry to have broken God’s rules. But now…it seems too easy. Almost like ‘oopsie, we are sorry, we are forgiven…hooray, now back to what we want to do.’ Isn’t that almost throwing God’s forgiveness in His face?
We have stressed and worried about this for almost a year…can anyone give us some insight? Thank you so much.