I have asked this questions of the apologetists but I guess they don’t feel it warrants a response. I am desperate to know the answer and can’t find it on any Catholic site.
I am a revert to the faith and have been married for twenty years to a non-Catholic, we were married by a non-denominational minister. Since returning to the church, I have had both children baptized and they both receive communion and have been confirmed. My husband agreed to this although he has reservations about the Catholic faith. Because our marriage has not been blessed by the Church, I cannot receive any of the Sacraments. When I first approached my husband about going through the process, he told me that he would do so only if I got a job.(I am a stay at home mom) I was so offended by that that I nearly left the marriage. After a couple of years of this stand off, I told my husband that he needs to cooperate in the blessing or that was it for us. He agreed and my pastor and I did the necessary paper work and I was granted permission to have my marriage blessed.
Again, my husband put up a road block. Now this gets a little complicated, so bear with me. The pastor at my church at the time was not a very “holy and righteous” priest. He was greedy and selfish and a user who did not push for my marriage to be blessed until he needed me to teach CCD. My husband was offended by this and refused to allow this “unholy” priest to perform the blessing. The priest was offended by my husband’s attitude and refused to allow another priest to perform it.
The priest then petitioned the bishop on my behalf for a “healing at the root” for my marriage, stating the fact that it was a first and only marriage and that I was an active volunteer at the church and had demonstrated a strong desire to have my marriage blessed but could not do so because of elements beyond my control. I never heard anything from him again on the subject for more than a year.
Now, my parish has a new priest but my husband is back to the get a job stance. The old pastor is the new judicial vicar. He told me that the old judicial vicar rejected my case for the “healing at the root” but that now as the new vicar, he is in a position to grant the request.
Ok, here’s the problem. This priest has lied to me in the past. He has used my desire to have my marriage blessed to his own ends. I won’t get into the details but there’s ample reason for me not to trust this man. What I need to know is whether or not there is in fact a legitimate thing as a “healing at the root” and if I do in fact qualify for it. I do not want to believe my old pastor, receive communion and then find out later that it was not valid.
Can anyone here help me with this?