in my experience, (and I admit my experience is limited so take this with a grain of salt ;)) …sometimes it happens that God speaks to us and it’s obvious, but if that doesn’t happen, it might be wrong to actively SEEK it. Because if we seek a feeling of any sort, we can fall into deception either from our own minds or from the enemy.
Here is what I personally do…
I go to Adoration and tell the Lord everything that’s on my mind. I ask Him that His will would be done and that He would lead me according to His will. YES, sometimes I ‘hear’ something and He lets me know His will right then and there =) BUT… if that doesn’t happen… don’t try to examine your feelings or seek it… if you don’t get it, that means God wants to speak to you in another way, that’s all =)
so what’s good to do in that case, when His will is really unclear, is just pray that He would lead you and then - leave it up to Him. Be patient. There would come a time when you’ll just know the answer =)
remember, sometimes God doesn’t tell us His will right away cause we’re simply not ready for it. He has to prepare us first so He prepares us, and then we receive the answer! you’ll when when it’s the right time for you to know.
maybe this is the time God wants you to build your trust in Him. Maybe it seems that time is running out. Trust Him and pray that He will show you His will before you have to make these big decisions.
I know it’s kind of scary… I struggle a lot with waiting myself, and I’m always afraid of being deceived and not doing God’s will!! but… I think it’s important to just come to Him with trust and not to worry too much. Anyway, doing this really helps us advance in holiness.
Maybe what you can do also is pray a novena. =) those are good cause then you’re not just praying once, but repeatedly… God hears us the first time, but novenas exist for our sake not for His sake. If you have time and especially if you pray the Rosary every day, maybe you can try praying the Irresistible Novena to Mary. It’s just the Rosary… 27 days in petition, and 27 days in thanksgiving, (whether it’s been granted or not.) It was actually given by Mary to a Saint I believe… if not a Saint than a nun…
I’ll try to find you a website
there you go! so maybe you can try asking Mary to help you always do God’s will in your life and in your decisions. Mary is a great person to ask cause she is fully obedient to His will.
Of course, pray to Jesus too…
I used this novena over the summer when I had to make a big decision:
you might find that over time you’ll just “know” the answer. if not right away. Don’t try to analyze your feelings. When God will answer, you’ll just know, or believe, it’s the truth. Ask Him to not let you be deceived and to keep you safe from anything that’s not of Him. Discernment is a pretty difficult process, I know it can be hard…
Also, I suggest asking a Saint to pray for you too.
Go to Adoration as much as you can… wait on God… keep on praying… eventually, He does make His will known. Keep in mind: even if you won’t know it in your mind, you might still be lead according to it! Sometimes God doesn’t give us knowledge, but arranges our circumstances in such a way that His will is done.
I hope this helps… basically, just pray lots that’s always the right thing to do. You can also try fasting.
and lastly, try to be open to anything He might say and try to surrender your own preferences.
God bless you.