WOW, just WOW.
I have to say this, we don’t KNOW what she’s feeling in her private life. It MUST be heartbreaking. At the SAME TIME: love does outweigh all. She knows her husband is just a shell of the man he used to be, so although it must hurt like the dickens – she is mature and stable enough to say “hey this is how it goes. If he’s happy, I am happy.” TRUE selflessness there.
Funny – my grandmother was a hideous woman for most of her life. I mean a real wretch. She was a hideous mother, a hideous grandmother, cold as ice, and not even nice to be around. She developed alzheimers when I was about 17. My dad said I should go visit her, “don’t be afraid, I mean it, with the alzhiemers your grandmother has completely forgotten how to be a b*tch.” This coming from a man who does NOT curse. If he could say this about his own mother, who even when she was being wretched in her right mind, would say it when she had alzheimers…well you get my point. I was SO shocked this came out of his mouth…
ANYWAY, despite the fact her and my grandpa did not have a very loving relationship, didn’t’ even share a room nor bed since I was born at LEAST, my grandpa died within months of her.
It’s the way it goes.
I think he would have been ok with her having a “boyfriend.” She was in a home, he wasn’t. He just loved her so much despite it all. He couldn’t live without her.
I keep thinking about how happy she must have been not being difficult…wow.
I suspect it’s the same with O’Connor. She loves him, to see him happy is not an ego-crusher, but simply a relief.