Hell phobia


#1

I don’t know what to do. I’m gonna be 20 in a few days, it started when I was 16.
I don’t wanna live, I wanna commit suicide, but I can’t. My parent’s won’t be able to survive this.
But my life is already a hell, so what’s the reason to continue to live. Every day I feel fear of going to hell .
I live in a city in Ukraine. There is no qualified psychiatrist there. I don’t see the solution of my problem. I don’t know what to do. I’m in panic and I’m crying.
I tend to believe I’m orthodox. And unlike protestants we are not sure of being saved. And once I was told that we should be ready to go to hell if Got wants us to. If his sun died for us then we should be ready to do the same or suffer in hell forever. And we should not be afraid of anything. But I can’t. I’m paralized with fear. I can’t study, work. I’m afraid of going to church or reading the Holy Bible coz I feel even worth. I try ещ
deal with it, but I can’t. I’m afraid of flames and being Flared for eternity.
And what if orthodoxy is not true religion? I’m afraid of wrong choice as well.
The only way out of this situation for me seems in 3 years after I graduate from university and can move to EU or Kyiv and get qualified medical help. But I’m gonna commit suicide before that. I can’t stand it anymore. Please, at least talk to me, I am desperate


#2

Don’t kill yourself.

Pray!

I’m sure someone else will be able to add much more than I have.


#3

Get some help! The suicide hotline is open 24 hours!


#4

I’m praying for you.


#5

Praying for you. Life is very short, hell is forever.


#6

Praying for you. Can you talk to a priest about this? Jesus died to save us all, not condemn us. I will have a Mass said for you.


#7

I have ordered an anonymous Mass to be said for you and your intentions on May 11, 2017.

Remember: God is Love. He wants us all to be happy. All sins can be forgiven. If you can read the Gospel of John, you will learn about God’s love.

Talk to a priest. Be at peace. Make a good Confession.

Feel free to write to us on this forum whenever you like.

**Ukrainian Suicide Hotline Website and telephone numbers:
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suicide.org/hotlines/international/ukraine-suicide-hotlines.html

Love, your sister in Christ.


#8

( I used to have hell phobia too as part of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorders, scruples and
depression) Medical help and talking to a priest really helped me. God bless you.

These negative thoughts are not reality.


#9

These verses, John 3:16 and John 3:17 are taken from the Word of God, the Bible, the Truth. Do believe them, do not be tempted to disbelieve them.

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For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him might not perish but might have eternal life.
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For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world might be saved through him.


#10

Never kill yourself! It is not worth it. I used to be severely depressed like you, and I had doubts about my faith. God loves you and He gave you the precious gift of life, don’t throw it away. I can tell you for certain that nobody’s salvation is assured unless they endure in their faith until the end. Stay strong brother, and pray for the Holy Spirit to fill your heart with love and joy. Life is short, but Hell is eternal. I will pray a Rosary for you and have a Mass said for you. Don’t worry my friend, you’re going to be okay.

Ave Maria, gratia plena, Dominus tecum.
Benedicta tu in mulieribus, et benedictus fructus ventris tui Iesus.
Sancta Maria, Mater Dei, ora pro nobis peccatoribus.
Nunc, et in hora mortis nostrae.
Amen.

Sacred Heart of Jesus have mercy on us!


#11

This sounds like good advice. Please live. Although you’re passing through a rough patch right now, things can change. It’s more likely you’ll go to hell by committing suicide than not, so that’s another reason not to.

All life is sacred.

Praying for you.


#12

Thanks, Clearwater.

Whenever you are sad, call on the Blessed Mother. She will help you.


#13

Until things are more settled in your life (and even when they are settled), why not consider offering up your suffering to God in reparation for your own sins and those of the world.


#14

hugs olleg

Brother,

I don’t know what resources are available for you, but please look at the above link where the suicide hotline was posted. God loves you, he wants you to live, and doesn’t want you to go to hell or even to suffer what you’re suffering right now. Please take one step at a time. Don’t try to fix everything at once. Thank God for your life and think of anything - however small - that you are grateful for and thank God for it. Pray to Mary about your fears and let her intervene for you: she won’t be upset with you no matter how dark your thoughts are.

Look for help wherever you can. If you can’t find a psychiatrist then talk to somebody or anybody that you can lean on. There are priests that can provide spiritual direction and do their best to help you in other areas.


#15

It"s the people who don’t believe in hell that go there.


#16

Praying for you.

Lord, have mercy.
Christ, have mercy.
Lord, have mercy.

Mother Mary, wrap your mantle around Olleg and calm the fears. Let him know that your son, Jesus, loves him and YOU love him. Be a mother to him so he can live. We love you, Mother. Tell Jesus for us that we love him so much. Amen.


#17

I was feeling like this recently. I’ve been drinking a lot ( not so much now, I’ve cut back a lot!) and some events have been transpiring in my life for a while now that have taken too much out of me emotionally. I happened to have met someone at my parish who told me heaven, hell, and purgatory don’t exist and she believes that this life is all we have and then its nothing. I seriously lost all hope after that and was making a plan to kill myself. I figured, why even bother then with any of this if that’s true. Something prompted me to go talk to this kind priest who has been very kind to me since joining the parish. I talked with him for almost an hour, and came out feeling like I was going to be ok. He assured me that heaven, hell, and purgatory do exist and that I’m not worthless.

He was very sensitive and kind, and told me about volunteer things I could do around the parish when I have the time…we all need something to live for and keep us busy you know? We can help ourselves by helping others. I haven’t had any alcohol since meeting with him, and I’ve been realizing slowly every day that I have terrible low self esteem, and fall victim to befriending some wild characters. So to remedy that I decided to try and do more around the parish when possible, and build up the confidence and self esteem I need to keep going by making REAL catholic friends, not ones who pay lip service to the church and go around spreading heresy like. Also I enjoy helping others. See if you can speak to a priest, and get set up with volunteer work or something that can introduce you to new people and keep you emotionally healthy and busy and your mind off all the bad things.


#18

But tell me pls, how u are not afraid of hell?
Let’s suppose, someone told u:“U probably have a cancer. But we won’t tell the truth until u die.”. How can u stop thinking about the likelihood of having cancer?
I feel pretty much the same… What if Got asks me to suffer forever for him?
Like God said once Abraham to kill his son.
I know we should be ready to sacrifice. And there are many people that sacrifice themselves every day, like firefighters. But I’m sure they do have fear when they are inside a burning building. But then they get out alive( not always, unfortunately) and their fair is gone. But I feel constant fear. Fear of the flame of hell, which will burn me forever.I wish I was like a protestant – totally sure I am saved. But Neither Catholic nor Protestant Church says it’s true. And that’s quite logically coz we can’t be sure we won’t go away from God to sin. But living in a constant fear already is Hell.Believe me!
What’s the solution of this dilemma? I just wanna stop feeling fear(
That’s all I want. Is that so much?


#19

Im not sure you understand the Orthodox faith correctly. GOD NEVER WANTS ANYONE TO GO TO HELL. Hell is something man chooses by his actions. Choose God, choose the true path, do not fear. Hell has no victory where Christ has dominion. Walk under Christ and the mantle of His Mother.


#20

Whoever told you that we should be prepared to sacrifice ourselves to hell is in error: this is not taught, including in the Orthodox faith. Remove it from your mind.

Please read and reflect on Ezekiel chapter 33.

God has no purpose or pleasure in a person going to hell. Damnation is an act of inglorious defiance that is devoid of any nobility or sacrifice. The only thing that has value to God is our love.


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