Thank you all very much. I am a lifelong Catholic, and I believe i married an unbeliever. Yes, we are separated. I do not even know if i should wear my wedding ring any longer. I do not feel even “married” any more.
I have seen a lawyer for a consult, and i am meeting with a priest this Tuesday for some spiritual guidance. The thing is i love him still, and do not want a divorce under any circumstances. I feel if he does, he should be the one to instigate it. What do all feel about this?
It is so hard being separated, my heart is breaking. I do not know quite what to do. I now am thrust back into the work force at my age, and i guess God gives us all free will, even to make bad decisions.
I ask you all, how i should proceed? Do i wait forever for him to repent? i bought him a Catholic devotional and have been praying for his conversion for 25 years now.
Bless anyone who responds. I am very depressed and have recently been put on anti-depressants. UGH
P.S. I recently met a lady from my Bible study who had a friend who’s husband left her for a stripper he had “fell for”, when he was frequenting stripper nudie bars too. I guess what I’m mostly feeling is that my husband doesn’t love me anymore. This is so very hard, as i am having a hard time distinguishing why he ever started going there in the first place. We always had a good and passionate marriage, He says it is just lust/not love, but i wonder. still, it is devestating.
Should i move on with my life alone with our children and “forget him” or should i wait? this is what i am struggling with most of all. i don’;t know how to really proceed. Any helpful suggestions on this question would be great.
Profundi: NO he is NOT trustworthy at all, FYI. i do not know if i can even hope for anything with a man such as this. He told me over and over he was thru with her, but lied to me and deceived me. My own children say i should “divorce dad” they have been thru so much trauma.