Our 32 year old daughter has suddenly abandoned her marriage. I warned her over a year ago that she was spending a bit too much time with her only friend whom she has known since high school, who is a single 33 year old female who has never been married. Her friend is not exactly what men would find attractive in the personality OR looks department. I don't say this to be unkind, but to shed some light on the fact that I believe that my daughter's friend has slowly poisoned my daughter's marriage so they can spend ALL of their time together. My daughter has never given any indication that she has any lesbian tendencies whatsoever. I am not so sure about her friend though. Since my daughter walked out on her husband they are constantly together. They have separate apartments though.
My daughter has withdrawn from us and refuses to talk about her marriage. Her husband (our son-in law) is a pretty good guy. He is educated, works hard, is loyal and responsible. They have been married 7 years and have no children. The only thing she ever told us about why she is abandoning the marriage is that she "feels nothing" for him is tired of "going through the motions" and wants out. I directly asked her about any abuse. She said there was no physical abuse. A few times he did comment about her 40 lb weight gain. Never before did she have a weight problem. This weight gain occurred at the same time she began to spend huge amounts of time with her overweight friend often eating at restaurants. Again I do not say this to be cruel, it could be an important part of the story.
Her friend is generally a bitter young woman whereas our daughter was always a cheerful positive type person. She never gave us a minute's trouble growing up. She was usually modest in her speech, attitududes toward morality. Since spending so much time with her friend over the last couple of years, she now curses like a sailor and smokes like a chimney and drinks more than she used to. Our good girl has developed a rough edge to her.
I've maintained contact with our son-in-law through this. I am convince my daughter has allowed her friend to poison her marriage and take control of her life. I've told her she has got to go home to her husband and work on her marriage. She is having none of it! How do I get her to see that she is making the mistake of her life?