[quote=TAS2000] DH is having outpatient surgery. In a “sensative” area. He will have a lifting restriction after the surgery of 10 lbs. Surgery Wednesday, back to work Monday. Seems pretty simple to me.
Seems to me that you aren’t the one having the surgery and hence the “simple” comment. Surgery is never “simple”.
[quote=TAS2000] We have 3 kids. The youngest is 4 months old, almost 14 lbs. DH wants to ship the kids to grandma’s house for the three days. (I work full time).
Your husband should not be watching the children while recovering from surgery. Grandma is a viable option.
[quote=TAS2000] I am having a REAL hard time being warm and fuzzy about this. Normally the kids are at the babysitter until he gets off work, about 1:30. He doesn’t want to leave them there and extend their normal time until I get home. He doesn’t want to spend the extra money.
If you don’t have the money, then the grandma plan sounds reasonable. If you do have the money then that might be the best option based on your info that grandma would have a total of 5 kids.
I, however, am having a hard time being warm and fuzzie about your lack of respect and concern for your husband.
[quote=TAS2000] I offered to take vacation Thurs and Fri (I’d be taking Wednesday anyway). He doesn’t want me to “waste” my vacation days.
Considering what you’ve written here about your husband, have you considered maybe he doesn’t want you to take off work because he’d rather be alone? Really-- I wouldn’t want you “caring” for me if you were going to go on about what a “baby” I am being for following my doctor’s orders.
[quote=TAS2000] He thinks he won’t be able to take care of them himself (like he normally does) because of the weight restriction.
He is correct there.
[quote=TAS2000] So he sees the only solution as dumping the kids on grandma for three days and nights. BTW, granmda will also be watching her other two grandchildren for that week due to the parents going on a trip.
I disagree that grandma is the only solution, but she is a solution. I think the babysitter option would be viable (but I don’t know your financial situation either).
[quote=TAS2000] My personnal opinion is that he should suck it up and deal with it.
My personal opinion can’t be shared here.
[quote=TAS2000] I don’t think many people follow those weight restrictions that closely (I know I never did), and I don’t see that he will be spending that much time holding the baby anyway. BUT, he may not be as tough as I am. Or, maybe since it involves that male area that I don’t truly understand, it really will be that much trouble.
I really hope you reconsider that you are being completely disrespetful to your husband, his feelings, and his health.
[quote=TAS2000] So am I being unfeeling? Or is he just being a big baby?
Yes, you are being unfeeling. And, I believe Dr. Laura has a book you should be reading-- The Care And Feeding Of Husbands.