My husband and I were talking last night about his career plans and the future and what not. He is currently finishing up his undergrad degree and is getting ready to start his masters. He has gotten an internship with a major auto company that he really enjoys however the stuff he works on doesn’t interest him as much as he wold like.He thinks he would like to work with engine development however the only place that this company has that is in California. They have already told him that if he would like to do a co-op or internship out there they would be glad to do that.
So here are my problems/concerns…
If he were to do an internship he would have to move to cali for 4 months and I would stay back in Michigan we just got married 9 months ago and we did the long distance thing for 2 years i REALLY don’t EVER want to do it agian if we don’t have to.He HATES talking on the phone so there would be verylittle contact between us. We both agree there is no point in him doing this internship unless there is a chance that he will really enjoy it and we will ultimatly move out there after he’s done with school so he can work out there. This is where i am really struggling with the situation. I REALLY want to start a family and get a house (and so does he ) but I want to raise our children close to our parent and silings, I really want them to be close to their extended family. So if we were to move to california it would mean delaying having children and renting for a few more years.He doesn’t understand why I would want to wait and why we couldn’t start a family somwhere else…and I can’t seem to make him understand how I feel…I also TRULY want him to be happy and enjoy his work and I’d feel aweful if we ended up staying here and he ended up regretting never moving to cali and trying out that job… what to do???
so I guess I just need some advice or some personal experiences from you all. Have you been in a situation like this with your spouse? or do you have any ideas for me? should I just get over the idea of staying close to the family and do what my husband wants?