I have a friend who is deeply distressed. She recently got engaged to the love of her life. They have been together since she was 16. She went away to college when she was 18 and she her her bf decided to keep their relationship. She was faithful to him for most of the 4 years apart but she admitted that sometimes she felt the need to explore since he was all she knew and was exposed to a totally different lifestyle and whole new secular world which she slowly adapted to. She was unfaithful about two times and didn’t tell her boyfriend but she still maintained her love for him. Then they hit a rough point in their relationship where they broke up and she became attracted to someone else and “messed around” with him.
She and her boyfriend eventually came back to their home town and decided to work things out, Since then she had been completely faithful to him and he asked her to marry him. However he felt guilty about something and she told him not to tell her to just move on the past is the past and they had a wonderful relationship here and now. He eventually told her he slept with someone else during their separation and she forgave him. She felt then that she could also confess to him as well, she only told him of the major incident when they had broken up- big mistake. He did not take it well he had her on a pedestal and was crushed. I told her that she should have not told him and should have gone to confession instead. She did eventually go to confession but still feels incredibly guilty for not “preserving herself” and allowing the pressures of the world to mislead her into thinking that cheating was ok. Any advice for my friend?..she is depressed and stricken with guilt everyday. Even though she and her fiance are working things out she feels cannot escape the presence of her sin in their relationship. And even though she wants to let go of the things she hasn’t told him that she has confessed she feels she can’t.