Good morning friends,
I am in kind of a hard situation. Last fall, when I was starting my faith journey through RCIA I met a Catholic man at my college. At the time, I had no Catholic friends and definitely believe he was brought into my life on purpose. Well, as time went on, I developed a huge crush on this person, and I am pretty sure he likes me too. However, he is painfully shy and I am not shy nor outgoing, so we have never spoken about “us”.
My issue is this, I am a firm believer that the man should do the pursuing, if it is meant to happen. I already feel like I have done too much in that area, I have called him on the phone twice to talk, and once tried to set up an activity between him and some of my friends. We don’t see each other at school anymore, and don’t go to the same church. So he will only call on the phone, or sometimes we speak on FaceBook… Anyway, I don’t know what to do. I don’t know if I tell him how I feel, is that the right thing to do? He is very shy, that might freak him out. And I do not want to get hurt if he doesn’t feel the same way. Do I move on, if so, how do I do that? Also, I don’t want to be sinful, how do I know if I am breaking the first commandment by putting someone else before God? I don’t think I do that, but I do spend a lot of time thinking about the situation.
Sorry if this is elementary but I have never felt like this before. What should a Catholic woman do?
God bless you,
Heavy Hearted in Missouri