Ok, I coming to the end of my rope. I realize now that I am lazy and a slob. My husband and I really only fight about the messy house we have. You see I work full-time outside of the home and my dh is the stay-at-home parent. He does a great job with the kids and he tries to keep the house clean and tidy but it’s not exactly his strong point. I’m worse. I grew up with a sahm who did everything for her kids from make their beds to do our laundry even when we were out of high-school. Us kids never had any chores - not a single one. When I moved out I had to have someone show me how to use a washer/dryer and I vaccuumed for the first time at 19. So here I am with a family of three young kids and one on the way. When I get home from work I want to do nothing but just relax with the kids and dh. I know I expect too much from dh. He does the laundry, dishes and most of the other household chores. To help us out I convinced him to hire cleaning ladies to come twice a month to wash floors, clean the bathrooms and kitchen, etc. But we’ve had to send them home a few times because the house was so disorganzied that they would not be able to do anything (kitchen counters were cluttered with dirty dishes, magazines, mail, etc, living room floor full of toys). Nobody can come to my house, open up the fridge and help themselves to food because we have left-overs in there that are weeks old. Even at work I can’t take any co-workers in my car for lunch because it’s full of fast-food wrappers and food that the kids partially ate and then managed to drop on the floor - really gross I know. Now we don’t have bugs or anything really bad like that but most people would not be comfortable in my home (even if they could find a chair without magazines or toys to sit on). In the summer, our lawn is a joke as we only get out to cut it maybe 3 times. We cut back this fall on all the activities we had the kids in so we are home more, but that doesn’t seem to be helping.
How can I get started in gaining control and breaking out of my laziness? What do you suggest a messy, disorganized family do to get things under control? I really need help because I see my bad habits starting to come out in my kids (they rarely pick-up their toys no matter how much we tell them and they throw their clothes on the floor wherever they decide to take them off). Please, I need help now!!!