Well I’m not perfect and there are definitely times I love myself more than God, but one strategy I follow is pretty simple: “Fake it till you make it”. If you followed every commandment and teaching perfectly what would you be doing? You don’t really want to do those things, but you do it anyways. You are faking it. Over time though this ideal self just becomes who you are. You are no longer fighting with God over things but submitting to his will. It’s a leap of faith. You choose to trust God and do what he says even though you don’t think it’s going to help you in anyway. Then a few years later, you find that God was right all along.
This is really what love is. It’s a choice that we make throughout the day through our thoughts and actions. Sometimes our feelings will be in line with love. Other times they will not and we have to force ourselves to do what is right. Either way we continue choosing to love.
Here’s an example from my life. I have trouble sleeping sometimes where I can’t sleep and get up super tired. When I was younger, maybe halfway through a night without sleep, I would basically tell God I was too tired and couldn’t go to mass the next day. But one day I decided to just not care how much sleep I got. I told God I didn’t care how little sleep I got, I was going to church. This was a leap of faith because I truly felt like I was just going to faint in the middle of it due to exhaustion. That didn’t happen though.
I was really tired and couldn’t concentrate on everything going on, but I made it through. I “faked” that I had gotten good sleep when I hadn’t and everything worked out fine. I made the choice to trust God regardless of what happened and nothing bad happened. So now most times when I have trouble sleeping, I don’t let it affect my schedule. I do everything. I might feel horrible, but I still get it done. I’m not perfect though, so there are times I might cancel plans, but most times I do the right thing.