A girl I used to work with just had an abortion. I saw her about a month ago and she shared this with me. she was crying and torn apart. her boyfriend really wanted her to do it. She wasn’t sure because she believed it was wrong, but went and did it anyway. I talked with her for a while and tried to offer some comfort. then we didn’t speak for several weeks due to thankgiving and some other things going on. I called her today though and she said something kind of troubling. it turns out that the guy she had been seeing is married and has two children. she did not know this until recently. she said that she’s glad she had the abortion now because she wouldn’t be able to deal with this news and a baby also. I am thinking this is what she is telling herself to deal with the guilt, but I’m not sure.
I am going to visit her for dinner on mondy. I really REALLY want to reach out to her with love. what should I say to her? I don’t want to walk on her feelings. I am so very worried about her. she’s so sad and alone and affraid. she says she keeps praying for things to get better, but they don’t. what should I do? Should I try and help her understand that what she did is wrong? I’ve never had to deal with this. does anyone here have any advice. please help! I’ve got one week to get ready. I don’t want to go over there with a big speach, but I do want to be able to give her some guidence.
Any advice would be GREATLY appriciated.