My sister surprised the family by saying that she’s getting married within a year to a longtime male friend whom she previously denied having any relationship to. She wouldn’e even tell my Mom about it. This disappointed my mom to say the least.
Problem is that she now shares the same apartment with this friend. She was very secretive and at first didn’t mention whom she started sharing her new apartment with starting about two months. Later, she mentioned that it was her male friend but she denied that she had any serious relationship with him. Then last week she tells us she’s getting married.
My mom is disappointed in my sister. But she prefers to be hands-off on my sister at this point because of how my sister reportedly answered my Mom when she started asking about her relatioship to the guy last year. Now, I’m not sure what to tell my sister who isn’t a practicing Catholic. Neither is my mom or dad for that matter.
What advice can I give my sister? What can she read so that she can prepare for her seemingly inevitable marriage? She lives in a different state and my Mom and the rest of the family reside in a different country. I don’t know if she’s still living chastely. She doesn’t go to mass and definitely has no spiritual advisor. I’m not sure if she wants one even. I hope she can enter the sacrament of marriage for the right reasons and in the right state. Mom doesnt like the guy so much…doesn’t think he’s honest. I hardly know him at all…never once spoke to him eye to eye but he seemed rude when our paths crossed years ago and even(barely)on the phone. Mom thinks that my sis is in love with him but she worries that the guy isn’t as in love with her…that it’s the man’s family who likes my sister more. I don’t know.
Any suggestions on how I can approach this topic with my sister and advice her on how to prepare without intruding too much on her “privacy?” In the recent past, she has told fmaily members of how she would rather keep her life private and she would get angry if we intruded. So we fear doing something to make her avoid us.