I am facing a distressing situation involving my nineteen year old son. He has had a perpetual problem of self-discipline and following through with commitment. He left home at seventeen after dropping out of high school and job-hopped while trying to make ends meet. Three times his grandmother and I have helped him out financially to get him set up until his newest job could start. After he quit his last job, I told him I was done. Just as funds ran out, he joined the Army. He had a great future ahead of him and this fourth chance to redeem himself seemed real, so we helped him once again long enough to ship out.
After three weeks I got a small note saying he was going to medically discharged for depression. He asked for a place to stay for a night when he first comes back. I simply have no more resources to spend on him, nor is it right to do so. My youngest is four and I can not expose him to the disrespect and turmoil that my other son brings in the house.
I do know if I am asking for help as much as wanting to know what others have done in this situation. There is no good answer for me and every choice has a serious downside. I do not want to stand in the way of what God must do with him either.