[quote=coralewis]I am legally married and we have a problem…my mother wants to run (ruin) everything! She is trying to pick our ‘wedding’ date, make me go back to her house which I Do Not ever want to go back to, and even choose our last name. Please tell me I am not the only one who thinks this is ridiculous. She cannot tell us how to act if she is having an affair which she said she would stop…Prayers are greatly needed!
If you are already married in the church, why is your “wedding date” so important? Let her pick a date, it is a moot point if you are already married.
She wants to choose your last name? This is also a moot point as you take on the name of your husband.
If she is providing you and your spouse with any support because you are not fully independent, she may think she has the right to make demands of you and your spouse (however illogical they may be). To help this, you need to be fully independent, and take the ‘power’ away.
Always respect your mother. Period. But you are a married woman and need to make your own life with your husband. Be kind to her and call her. But kindly tell her that you are independent and married now, and that she can make suggestions and you will take them under consideration- with your husband. (You need not bring in any of her indiscretions- that’s just mean, and it doesn’t do anything to help the situation.)
Prayers are heading your way.