[quote="Marie5890, post:1, topic:181446"]
Looking for any insight anyone has to offer when it comes to these three
To instruct the ignorant;
To counsel the doubtful;
To admonish sinners;
Im not sure where the line is of doing this and not coming off as arrogant or condescending
To put it in context, I tend to hold back on of these because I dont like "rocking the boatz' because when I "rock the boat"....the waves can get nausiating ....:eek:
I tend to be very logical and from my head when I say things and some get offended easily or have thinner skins or whatever....
If any of you have found ways of handling these spiritual works of mercy please help....
(I think of our priests and bishops who have to do such things with parishioners and all I do is thank God for these men's willingness and I pray God to help them...Its not easy, esp when one wants to be "nice"...Maybe that is my problem? I want to be "nice"? or "liked"? Mmmm gonna have to think about that aspect too)
Okay, here are some thoughts.
To admonish the sinner; Are you comfortable with your own sins (well past sins because you have gone to confession right?;)) Over my lifetime the more I have understood about my own past sins the better I have been able to talk to others about theirs.
Counsel the doubtful; How good are your ears? If you can be patient and listen then you can sometimes help simply by listening. I would think about what life experiences you have had that can relate to other people and their troubles.
Instruct the Ignorant; This I think is the easiest area in which one can both improve on a personal level and then help others. The less ingnorant we are as individuals the better we can help others. What do you do to increase your knowledge of the faith? This year I am increasing my knowledge by reading at least one book per month and watching one video per week. The thickest book is Theology of the Body, but most of them will be smaller or biographical books about saints.
How active are you in participating in faith related events or seminars? I attended the Oregon Right To Life last year and it was a good learning experience. Is there a bible study at your church? Slightly different idea - I pick one virtue to focus on each year. This year it is Temperance. So, by giving me this focus I am learning more about Temperance.
One last thought about instructing the ignorant would be that people often learn a lot when they teach others. I do not know if being a Sunday school teacher fits you, but that would be a good way to help the ignorant.
You mentioned that some people have thin skins. This is true. The virtue of humility will help you with this. If people sense you are coming from a humble point they will take what you have to say better. Without a specific situation I am not sure exactly what to suggest exactly.