My wife and I are having problems in bed. I really love her and we enjoyed sex in a loving way, but she decided to use bc pills.
They are turning her into a zombie. She visited a gynecologist and he gave her pills. She felt constant cramps and depression, and so the doctor now gave her a depo provera shot.
Our relationship is hell now, she doesn´t speak much now, she´s cold, not affective, no libido, pain when having sex. We don´t have sex anymore.
But the worst part is the akwardness, she gets irritated easily, I get frustrated, we get depressed, so basically I try to avoid her now as much as possible because things would just get worst.
I´m totally against using condoms and bc pill, but she respects my beliefs as I respect hers.
I know the problem is not her, the problem is the pills and shot, and so I will never abandon her or stop loving her, and we have talked this out but she wants to continue to protect herself, so she´s going to try different brands of pills, but has already told me that most likely any bc pill will have this effect on her.
So I want to convince her out of that garbage, but the only option I´ve found is the billings method. But everybody has heard is inacurate, and she might reject her, but I need to convince her and make her feel safe.
But there´s another problem. My wife suffered from anorexia 5 years ago, and so she´s very irregular, meaning she menstruates about 4-5 times per year. Can we still use the method?.
Also is there any kind of commercial kit or something?, in order to give her tools for her to feel safe.
Please help save our marriage.