[quote="libera_nos, post:1, topic:252219"]
I have a pregnancy fetish, and I'm kind of embarrassed about it. I don't like admitting to it, and it's hard just to say it on here.
A little background info: I'm not married, and am not currently in a relationship.
Based on what I've heard, I don't think it is possible to "undo" a fetish, so instead I feel that I simply should do my best to "live through this." But it also puts a few doubts in my mind about a few things.
First, assuming I end up in a relationship/get married/have kids, she (hypothetical girlfriend/fiance/wife) probably has a right to know about this, but does she absolutely have to know about this? When's the right time?
Second, it would make me feel uneasy about feeling for the hypothetical unborn baby with her. The mere sight of a pregnant woman can cause arousal, I'm pretty sure touching her stomach would do alot more. Normally, I would feel that, if she and I conceived the child together, I have a right to feel it whenever we're both OK with it. Not so much with this fetish.
Is there a serious problem here, or am I just thinking too much?
I think a lot of men find pregnant women attractive. The culture just doesn't tell us this at all. But I've heard of many husbands finding their wives amazingly beautiful and alluring with their pregnant bellies. My husband loved my baby bump. He was sad for it to go though he says I'm still more attractive than I was before I was pregnant. He says I just seem to have more curves than I did before. One of the most shocking things to me was that while I was pushing my baby out, my husband turned to me and with all sincerity said "You are so beautiful right now!" I stopped and was like "Really?!"
Its a good and positive thing to be able to tell a wife that she's beautiful in moments where normally she'd think she's less attractive. A lot of women feel ugly and fat when they're pregnant. They're paranoid about stretch marks and being unappealing to their husbands.
I wouldn't call what you have as a fettish. I think its just some unspoken thing men share.
Chastity is not about seeing your sexuality in hostile light. It simply means respecting the meaning of sexuality and marriage. The main things to avoid as a single person is becoming sexually involved prior to marriage, masturbating and engaging imaginative fantasies for the purpose of enjoying sexual pleasures. Strive to avoid those things that tempt you to do that, but beyond that be merciful with yourself, pray and go to confession