It is often very difficult to know if we’re doing exactly what God wants us to do.
I can relate to your situation as I quit my full-time job almost 10 years ago to be home with my children (then 4 and 6 months). By the time I figured all the money I would save on: gas, childcare, clothing, eating lunches out, etc., we found that the difference in income was really not that big! I began doing some work from home (business writing, project management and data entry) at about 10-15 hours per week, and we did fine.
Back to knowing if this is right for your family. Sounds like you are already praying about it. If you don’t currently have a regular hour of Eucharistic Adoration, I would strongly recommend it. I have had many insights and moments of reassurance during my prayer in the Presence of Jesus.
Sometimes you feel a certain peace about a decision; sometimes things just begin falling into place; sometimes you experience obstacles because our spiritual enemy doesn’t want you to do something. It all comes down to trusting in the Lord and sometimes stepping out in faith.
Have you asked other families/neighbors/church friends if they or someone they know are in need of daycare? Maybe you could do just part-time or after-school care? Would your current employer have any work you might be able to do on a part-time basis from home? What about other professional contacts?
Start looking into possibilities and see what develops. My husband and I have made many big decisions in our lives – moves, jobs, adoption, etc. Sometimes our paths start off in one direction, but then lead us somewhere else completely. Be open to where Our Lord wants to take you – it might be an opportunity you haven’t even considered yet.
When trying to make a big decision, I often pray something like:
Dear Jesus, you know we have this big decision to make. I’m asking that if this is not the right thing for our lives and for serving You, that you make it clear to us. Close all the doors and windows of opportunity if we are not to go down this path. If we are to go down this path, help us to feel your assurance and peace, and open every door and window to lead us where You want us to be, and to do what You want us to do. Jesus, I trust in You.
My prayers are with you! God bless.