Help with insatiable desire for euphoria


#1

I have a problem with an insatiable desire for euphoria. Things that give me euphoria are school work, playing basketball, and working out. Say I go without one of these things (and there are many more of these things) for a while, and a GREAT many instances during the day, I have a thought that I want to do one of these things. When I deprive myself of these things there are a few consequences:

  1. It’s hard because I’m at school all day. How can I separate enjoying my work instead of worshipping it. In fact, how can I even DO it without worshipping it?!

2.My entire day is anxious.

  1. I do not so great things on the internet to substitute.

I don’t know what to do, I need your prayers.

I mean, I turn everything into a euphoric experience. I generally found this girl attractive at school and guess what, she’s become an idol.

Everything I do is wrong because I turn it into a sin.

Please offer advice and an Our Father. I will pray for you.


#2

As human beings, we do tend to worship people and things like work (or even emotional rewards) that are not God.

I don’t know where you are on your spiritual journey, just beginning or practicing a while, but at any rate, this seems to me to be God nudging you away from your dependence upon these things and towards dependence upon Him alone.

I don’t know what you’re prayer life is like, but if you are serious about overcoming this or anything in life, you’ve gotta pray. It’s just that simple. The grace of God is powerful, but the first thing we need to do is ask for it, every day, often throughout the day.

Personally, when I went from praying mechanically to praying as if Jesus were sitting right next to me, in my own words, just telling him exactly what was bothering me or frustrating me, that’s when it seemed like the grace just started flowing. Then, I was able to make many strides in detaching myself from negative things.

Sometimes we have to simply downright refuse to do that thing that we know is wrong. It takes a lot discipline to exercise the will. But when we refuse to do it and pray for the Lord’s help, then the grace comes and He changes our desires.

Of course, there is nothing wrong with admiring a woman’s beauty. That is not a sin. The sin, of course, comes when we begin to imagine ourselves with her sexually. But even now, it’s still my natural response to want to worship a beautiful woman. But because of the Lord’s grace after many years of disciplining my will and praying, I’m now able to bring her into the spiritual realm, praying for her, saying a few Hail Mary’s for her conversion and salvation, instead of leaving it at the natural level of mere attraction.

I also cannot recommend Eucharistic Adoration enough. There is something mysterious about going there. I think it has to do with the fact that it just runs so counter to our natural understanding of things. You think–“Ok, I’m sitting here staring at the Host. How is this going to help me?” We are so used to having to do something or learn a new technique or whatever, that we can’t believe that it can help. But it does.

I think a general rule of the spiritual life is that whenever we do anything for God that goes against our nature, whether it’s going to Mass or Adoration, or even just praying when we don’t feel like it, that’s when grace can come to us, helping us to detach a little more from created things and from those things on the internet that can damage us.

God Bless, I will pray for you!


#3

As human beings, we do tend to worship people and things like work (or even emotional rewards) that are not God.

I don’t know where you are on your spiritual journey, just beginning or practicing a while, but at any rate, this seems to me to be God nudging you away from your dependence upon these things and towards dependence upon Him alone.

I don’t know what you’re prayer life is like, but if you are serious about overcoming this or anything in life, you’ve gotta pray. It’s just that simple. The grace of God is powerful, but the first thing we need to do is ask for it, every day, often throughout the day.

Personally, when I went from praying mechanically to praying as if Jesus were sitting right next to me, in my own words, just telling him exactly what was bothering me or frustrating me, that’s when it seemed like the grace just started flowing. Then, I was able to make many strides in detaching myself from negative things.

Sometimes we have to simply downright refuse to do that thing that we know is wrong. It takes a lot discipline to exercise the will. But when we refuse to do it and pray for the Lord’s help, then the grace comes and He changes our desires.

Of course, there is nothing wrong with admiring a woman’s beauty. That is not a sin. The sin, of course, comes when we begin to imagine ourselves with her sexually. But even now, it’s still my natural response to want to worship a beautiful woman. But because of the Lord’s grace after many years of disciplining my will and praying, I’m now able to bring her into the spiritual realm, praying for her, saying a few Hail Mary’s for her conversion and salvation, instead of leaving it at the natural level of mere attraction.

I also cannot recommend Eucharistic Adoration enough. There is something mysterious about going there. I think it has to do with the fact that it just runs so counter to our natural understanding of things. You think–“Ok, I’m sitting here staring at the Host. How is this going to help me?” We are so used to having to do something or learn a new technique or whatever, that we can’t believe that it can help. But it does.

I think a general rule of the spiritual life is that whenever we do anything for God that goes against our nature, whether it’s going to Mass or Adoration, or even just praying when we don’t feel like it, that’s when grace can come to us, helping us to detach a little more from created things and from those things on the internet that can damage us.

God Bless, I will pray for you!


#4

Sorry didn’t mean to post that twice!


#5

I’d say I wish I had a little of you in me. :wink:

Finding euphoria in everyday life is a gift. You’ll have to learn to control it, but you’re very lucky.

Take me, for example. Or my elder daughter, or son. We’re wired on such a low voltage that it’s hard for us to truly enjoy a great many things in life. People say we’re party poopers, etc. It’s not that we don’t *want *to have fun, it’s that few things seem *that *fun.

On the other hand, my wife and younger daughter (particularly my daughter) find true enjoyment from many, many things. My daughter gets so pumped up on every day life that people call her “Sugar,” because it’s like she’s operating on a happy sugar high most of the time.

So I have a sense of what you’re after in chasing euphoria. Enjoy it. Embrace it. Don’t feel guilty about it unless it starts to control your life. If it does, then you ought to talk to someone about it, a doctor, a priest, a therapist.


#6

Good points by all. I appreciate your help. Please continue to pray for me.

On the hill: sometimes it can be hard to control. It leads to mood swings. And when my current activity no longer satisfies me, I look for something more, and something more, and something more. It leads to disordered attachments. It’s quite tough to have.

Regardless, prayer had helped me ALOT.

Any more thoughts?


#7

SandwichOrder,

You need to separate out the healthy things that lead to euphoria from the unhealthy things. Basketball, school work, working out are good things, there is nothing wrong with getting a sense of euphoria from these things, nothing at all. God gave us the world so that we can enjoy it, not for us to think we ought not be enjoying it. Go ahead and enjoy your basketball, working out, and school work to the full and do not feel any guilt about gaining a sense of euphoria from these things. And there is nothing wrong with fancying a girl at school.

However, what you describe as. “Not so great things on the internet” is a more serious issue. Go play basketball, work-out, do some school work, go for a run, or watch TV instead. But internet porn (if that is what you mean) is evil, it treats human beings as commodities to be used for the pleasure of others, it’s the work of the devil.


#8

This is good news. This is very good news. Thanks so much. I often times make erroneous judgements.

Yes, I do struggle with the mentioned temptations, and I will try to continue to resist the temptation.

Thanks for all your input.


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