Hi all -
You've heard it many times before that women and their mother-in-laws don't seem to get along...I'm finding this statement truer and truer each day.
My husband and I are moving to Japan on Wednesday. My in-laws flew out on Thursday, the 14th and were supposed to leave the 21st. Well, then they decided they would stay till Easter, and now they've changed it again to leave right after we step on the plane on Wednesday. Not to mention, my sister-in-law flew in unexpectedly this week and my brother-in-law is now flying in today (at the request of my MIL). I understand that they are my husband's family and are only wanting to say goodbye to him, but to come half way across the country unexpectedly is, to me, very unreasonable and causes me to stress out. (This is the prelude to why my mother-in-law overwhelms me!)
When my husband and I first started dating, I was attending a Catholic church, being raised Catholic. However, not really knowing the differences in the denominations, I started to attend his Southern Baptist church with him and his mother and I became pretty close, even though I thought she was a little radical (She's a HUGE, STRICT, ONLY-SOUTHERN-BAPTISTS-ARE-REAL-CHRISTIANS kind of woman). A year after we were married, I started going back to the Catholic Church after having talked it over with my husband and he supported my choice. Last Sunday, I went to Mass while they attended a Protestant service on base. Apparently, this upset my mother-in-law enough to pull my husband aside and have a discussion with him. She told him repeatedly that she doesn't agree with my choice and that I am going to a church that teaches all the wrong things and that the Catholics worship Mary.
Even worse, since then, she has had a pretty conniving manner towards me.
My father flew into town to spend Easter with us (and was already expected to do so) and when we attended the Good Friday Mass, sh*t hit the fan. That morning, I made a big breakfast for everyone. I even made bacon for his family because I know they don't observe Good Friday. Well, she mocked me AND my father. She criticized us for not eating bacon but eating eggs. Her reasoning was that "eggs still come from an animal so what you're doing doesn't make sense". Further, when my Dad left the house, she started giving me 20 questions about the Stations of the Cross. When I explained them to her, she immediately jumped on the "Virgin Cradling Jesus" one and said, "That's funny, because the body was given to Joseph, not Mary. But, I know you Catholics like to do that." After my father and I got back from Mass, she asked 20 questions about how it was. When I explained that they bring the crucifix up and ask everyone to kneel and kiss the feet of Jesus, she just made a face. (Mind you - I was only answering her questions - I didn't bring any of it up myself). We all went out to dinner downtown and did some window shopping, too. I saw this really pretty cross in a store and commented on it, while just her and I were standing there. In a very condescending tone, she said, "Oh, but where's Jesus? Why isn't he on the Cross? OH! That's right, he's not supposed to be there. He's risen," and walked away.
The entire day I was FURIOUS but managed to keep my cool so I wouldn't fuel further tension in the family. But for her to come visit me, prolong her stay twice, and then criticize my every move is absolutely unacceptable. I have welcomed this woman into our home, made her dinner, breakfasts, taken her places, etc. etc. etc. I feel like I have done all I possibly can to be a good daughter-in-law and there is no pleasing her now.
I have one more week of putting up with her and I know it's going to blow over tomorrow when I attend the Catholic Easter Mass.
What do I do?! Can you please pray for me!?