Hello to all I am hoping I can get some help. I am newly Catholic one year, I was raised Mormon my mother is a devote Mormon. I did not have a good childhood, physical,sexual, and verbal abuse from both her and my ex step father. My mother is very controlling and is very irrate that I am Catholic. My mother hates my husband and is not shy about saying it in front of people and in front of our four children.
I have a brother which has alays been a favorite of my mom’s. My brother’s wife had twins eight months ago, and my mom will always send them holidays card and gifts. My youngest child just turn one on 07/02/07. My mother will not be coming to her birthday party ( she lives in portland Oregon) but she has said how much she can not wait to go to the twins birthday party in Sept. I am very upset with this she never goes to anything with my children. For the past three years she will tell my older two children that she will take them camping and then three days before they are to go she calls and says I am not going.
Another situation happen last sunday my brother was over and he was sticking his fingers down my two year old sons throat trying to make his throw up, my son bite him and my brother slap him across the face, needless to say I was yelling at my brother how could you do this to a two year old. Well that does end there.
My oldest daugther has a history of mirgraines and was laying down and my brother wanted her to move because he wanted to sit where she was sitting, and he slapped her and he slapped her so hard that his hand print was in printed on her leg for four hours. My children don’t want to see there uncle they are scared by him, he says he doesn’t know if he will be coming to my daugthers bday party on 07/14.
I have prayed and I have talked to people in this regards I don’t know what to do. Some people says I need to drop the ties with my mom because of all the verbal abuse and also because of my brother. My children and so afaraid my daugther told me that if her uncle comes to the babies birthday party then she is going to stay in her room the whole day. I know i am to obey my mother but I just can not take it anymore. My mother kept me away from my biological father until this year I have found him, she would tell me he did not want anything to do with me, when in fact he would call and my mom would tell him I was not home I am 27 years old have a wonderful life unless my mom is around.
If anyone can suggest anything pleae help
One priest I spoke to told me to stop talking to her because it is causing to much pain in my house
God bless you all
sorry so long